Different sexual pracsises in the middle east?

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I know a girl from the middle east, more specifically Lebanon. She grew up in a liberal family, she never had to wear hijab, were allowed to have friends outside of her religion, and after she moved out, were allowed to have boyfriends and sex before marriage. She got her schooling at the university. But once my girlfriend got to know her really well, she told her about some shocking details about her family life. I really don't know what to make of this.

The thing is, in order to express gratitude and appreciation for her father, she was made to dress pretty and put on make up for him, go to his bedroom to lie on her side, kiss and cuddle with him ... and letting him have an anal intercourse with her. The older sister had been doing it for years, so when hinted it was her turn, she felt like she had no choice. Laying on her side, she was kissed and stroked, and given the details of what would take place. Her butt was dressed naked and lubed up, and she was told to be brave. Looking back she got a glimpse of the erection, and thought it would kill her at first. As it was, he was gentle putting it in, and completed what he had in mind. After he was done, she was given time to recover, and sent out of the room as if nothing had happened.

This continued for as long as she lived home. At most, he would do it with both her and the elder sister weekly. It was always the same, laying on her side, getting her hair kissed and made to cuddle, only her butt being penetrated. It wasn't considered real sex, as she was still seen as a virgin. But it was of course hushed down and treated with secrecy. The wife in the house had full knowledge of what was going on. She got so used to it, it wasn't really discomforting for her, just a sort of invasion of her privacy. She would just lay there resigned and wait for him to finish. After she moved, she was never required to do the same thing again.

Now I realize there are cultural differences. But technically, he had sexual intercourse with his daughters. Since it was more or less accepted in their culture (although hushed down) the girl claims she took no damage from it either. I just think it's wrong for it to pass so easily, since it then could happen in future generations. How should I see this?

It's a cultural thing with no damage done 11
Although cultural, it was harmful for her 7
She was abused 27
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  • bigtoy
    11 years ago

    Even though they do treat women differently there, I don't believe that this sort of thing is acceptable in their culture and I think she has been led to believe that this is normal which is typical of child abusers.

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    • Nogoodusernames
      11 years ago

      Wtf this isnt lebanese culture!! thos shit is as far from lebanese culture as you can get. Thats abuse. I know about lebanese culture because though im not lebanese lebanon is freaking beutiful so we go there every other summer. And let me tell you, thats not culture that stupidity

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    Kill them all.

    Internal penetration using anything (even a finger) is counted as rape, no matter if it is anal or vaginal penetration.

    There are some inconsistencies in your (her) story though.
    The hijab is a MUST wear by all women, by not wearing this the father has a right to burn her alive (so as I've learned!)
    'Lubing up' is not ideal. It is best to ream out the anal passage using some type of dildo, then to have comfortable sex for both parties.
    Her hair being kissed? May actually be her head being kissed on her head of hair!

    It could be argued this is not a normal practice of the middle east. But then again females have NO rights, and if she went to the authorities whilst there (authorities meaning religious nut jobs!) They would have locked her up (and probably raped here).

    Again, kill all Middle Eastern men.

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    • Nogoodusernames
      11 years ago

      You my freind, are stupid. Thats rape not culture. I go to lebanon alot (im christian and 100% american) and i know thats not how they treat women. You are stupid for many reasons
      1) the hijab is a choice and isnt forced upon any girl

      2) in islam burning someone alive is considered torture and even if you someone is trying to kill you, you cant torture them.

      3) raping someone is forbidden and having intercourse with someone like your father or brother is a giant sin

      4) females do have rights there and your too stupid to realize the laws in lebanon say that a women can do everything a man can do and will have support by the government

      5) if she went to the authorities and told them what happened the father would have been locked up u dumbass

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    • Nogoodusernames
      11 years ago

      And that my freind, is why we shouldnt allow stupid people like you on the internet

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      • Dad
        11 years ago

        Thanks for your ignorant viewpoint.
        But lets just get right to the point so as YOU understand.

        Is the Middle East LAW, generally (say 100%) governed by religion?
        What's that? YES.
        I rest my case.

        By the way my post here is over a month old, why bring up this topic again?
        There are MANY ridiculous religious topics to reply on (although I see I have multiple emails from IIN today, I really hope they are not from you. (Haven't checked this instant, because couldn't hold myself back from replying)

        The MIDDLE EAST laws and religion (basically same deal there) are the WORST in the world.
        Followed extremely closely by Christianity in church crazy talk. Oh and guess what? I'm not going to burn in Hell, because that's BABY talk.

        I just re-read my post up there, EVERYTHING still holds true.
        The 'Authorities in the Middle East can NOT be trusted with innocent women. Women STILL get burnt alive! (we don't do that here, strangely!) And 'WOMEN' are second rate citizens, they even have to cover themselves up!

        I'm shocked you would defend this barbaric society.
        Although I actually don't feel (now) that we should 'kill them all' (because that's a bit crazy itself) But yes they should be stopped from abusing women and children IMMEDIATELY.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Undeniably wrong and absolutely unacceptable. He deserves to be killed.

    Btw, how old was she at the time?

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    • Alestar
      11 years ago

      15-16, don't really know.

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  • smartpatrol11
    11 years ago

    Fucking donkeys and camels and removing your daughters clit is not natural no

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    • Nogoodusernames
      11 years ago

      Yes, its not natural and its not culture nobody does that in lebanon and if they did they would have been arrested and fined

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  • nAt2017
    11 years ago

    She was mistreated. I'd call it rape, even if it was cultural.

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    • Nogoodusernames
      11 years ago

      But its not cultural and it is rape

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    weirdos

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  • theaverageatheist
    11 years ago

    if she is of a muslim family this is totaly unaccetable in her cuilture, the coran specificly says that anal is forbbiden and punishable by death. this is why according to islam male homosexuality is sin, not because the actual male -male attraction is sinfull but the most common sexual intercouse is, of couse people when they interpret books they often generalise. even sexual intercouse whith an animal if it's anal is forbidden, clearly Mohammad was not a fan of anal.
    even if this is a cultural thing it's still abuse as many cultural standards are.

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    • Nogoodusernames
      11 years ago

      Its not a culture thing is a thing a fucked up dad decided to do

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      • theaverageatheist
        11 years ago

        ovviously it's fucked up but he asked if it was a cultural thing.

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        • Nogoodusernames
          11 years ago

          Oh yeah i know i was agreeing with you. You my friend, are intelligant unlike the majority of dumbass people on this website.

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  • Lynxikat
    11 years ago

    I could go on and on about how wrong this is, but...

    No. No, this isn't normal. Your friend was raped by her father, it has nothing to do with religion. Anyone who says differently, it's just an excuse.

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    • Nogoodusernames
      11 years ago

      Agreed, its not culture or religion and sex with someone like your father or brother is forbiden and a sin in islam

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    anal intercourse = corn hole.

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    Sounds kinda hot......

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  • spinerbrent
    11 years ago

    Was too long to not read for my eye but I see in title say no.

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    • Justsomejerk
      11 years ago

      I don't understand your comment.

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      • shade_ilmaendu
        11 years ago

        It was long and bothering their eyes to read it so they voted based on the title. ;P

        Judging by sentence structure and grammar, english probably isn't their first language.

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        • theaverageatheist
          11 years ago

          by the structure of the grammar he\she is probably of a latin based language.

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          • shade_ilmaendu
            11 years ago

            I just imagined them saying that with a Latin American accent... it sounded exactly like Lupita from Weeds. (no clue how to spell her name D:)

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            • theaverageatheist
              11 years ago

              I speak italian and if you translate it LITTERALY the sentance makes perfect sence and is correct,
              both spanish and french have a similer lay-out :D
              it allways makes me laugh when I se bad inglish whitter by non fluent speakers, italian love inglish but so many are bad at it :P

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