Did you ever self harm and how do you cope with the scars?

I used to cut myself for years but I got over it about 10 years ago. Lately I had a relapse when I was drunk and really hacked my arm. I'm really dissapointed with myself and also it's getting warmer and I want to wear short sleeves at work but I'm worried of how people will react. I used to live in a colder country so covered my arms for years. Those scars are so faded now you can barely see them but now I have this huge horrible pink thing to deal with.

I never self harmed 48
I always wear long sleeves to hide my scars 52
I don't care what people think (explain their reaction) 36
I have another way to conceal pink scars 9
Other (Add a comment) 13
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  • I don't try to hide them at all although I do worry sometimes what people think, even though they've faded a lot now. It's not that I'm proud of them but neither am I ashamed. They're a part of me, so take me as I am or don't, right? :)

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  • dappled

    My friend covers hers with thick leather jewelry bands. She wears them tight so they don't slip up and down her arm.

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    • RaNdOmPoPcOrN

      Do you cut dappled?

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      • dappled

        Hmm, not the way you think, but I was once so out of my mind with depression and insomnia that I carved a six inch slash into my chest. What about the Poppy? :/

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        • RaNdOmPoPcOrN

          *gasp* DAPPLED! How could you!
          I do, currently, accutatly.

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          • dappled

            Ahh, I was suffering pretty badly. I have a scar but not a bad one. I'm sorry to hear that you currently do. :/

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            • RaNdOmPoPcOrN

              If it was 6 fucking inches deep, you better run lol.

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            • RaNdOmPoPcOrN

              Wait, was it 6 inchs deep or long?

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  • clash

    A few years ago I was really struggling with anxiety and fitting in. I slashed up my legs pretty good and had quite a few scars.
    I avoided shorts until the beginning of this summer actually.
    Most of my scars are quite faint, but there's one really deep one that will never fade. I've been getting so many comments about it, but I just say I got snagged by a tree branch. No one questions that.

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  • kittenlittle

    i don't care. i do get annoyed when people ask about them, and say "what happened to your arm?" when there are multiple scars on the wrist area, and obvious from self harming

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  • Jessie735513

    It's been a long time since I self harmed but mostly I didn't do it in obvious places. The ones on my arm are faint and I blame them on my cat if anyone asks.

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  • MyHazelLabyrinth

    I also self harm, though i havn't for a couple of months so i'm proud of myself :)

    I really don't like the emo stigma that people associate with those that do self harm, it's sad.

    But anyway, the worst ones are on my legs and being aneemic (having low iron so it takes me ages to heal)

    If you are worried about how they look and those awkward questions, i would get some BIO OIl. It does wonders!

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    • I have Bio Oil but it's not really doing anything. I've had this scar for about two months now. I just can't remember how long it takes for the scars to turn white from pink.

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      • MyHazelLabyrinth

        you have to be consistent with it

        also, vitamin e cream is supposed to be helpful too? if you type in home remedies to get rid of scars into google, you'll find alot too, some of them ar e really easy to get your hands on

        it will eventually go away, i use my scars as motiation not to do it again, hopefully you will stoop or have stopped
        hugs

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        • Thanks. :) I think I'll try the vit E cream. I have stopped, I hadn't done it for 9 years anyway. It was a one off, but probably the worst one. I'm sure it'll fade over time, it's just as I haven't done it for so long, it seems terrifying that some-one might see it now. I can't exactly remember how I used to feel. Hm. I'm glad you have stopped :) well done xx

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  • Oli

    I really don't give a rip who sees me.

    I got two really big puffy ones, and it's like, whatever, I'm still wearing tank tops.

    If it's not on a weird place (I'm talking actually on your arm, not near the top where your shoulder is), you can say it was an accident and make something up. Like you tripped and your arm got caught on a nail.

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  • ChloeVasiliev

    I've been a sufferer of self harm since I was about 9. At the time I didn't think it was self harm and I juts simply dug a sharp object across my arm now and then. It progressed to the stage where I've been hospitalized more times than I can count. I had a very troubled childhood and the life I lead up until I ran away from home I'm not proud of and I still struggle day-to-day with self harm. I don't hide my scars any more, I used to wear lots of bracelets and sometimes I used this special effects make up that only came off when you scrubbed it. I was known as the loner in school, no one had heard me talk until year 10. (or 10th grade) I have over 300 scars all over my body which are only the ones that I can count not the ones I've done in the past. Scars are very hard to conceal and with people asking questions and ridiculing you before they know what happened doesn't help the situation.
    Now I'm 19, have an amazing boyfriend and couldn't care less what people thought of me. If they want to stare and say things, let them. They can't bring you any lower than you've already been before and say to yourself 'Do you really want to have to take this journey all over again?' That's my deterrent.
    I hope you accept your scars for what they are, it took me a long time to realise that.

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    • Wow. You sound like such a strong person. I hope I can overcome the judgement that other people bestow upon me. I guess what you say about they can't bring you any lower than you've already felt is true. I'll try and remember that.

      I'm sorry you've had so much shit and you're obviously fairly scarred. I think you're amazing for coming through :)

      It's nice that you have an understanding boyfriend. I'm sort of worried about finding a girlfriend as I am scared of what she'll think.

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  • karmasAbich

    I covored scars with a tattoo.

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  • Monster93

    Ehhh i guess im a hypocrit about this but i really dont like when people cut themselves but if i dont know them ill just stay quiet about it. Normally if its a friend ill talk to them and explain i dont want them to do it even though a little over a week ago i cut myself for the first time. It was only a little cut and one of my friends have cuts all up and down her forearm from her wrist to her elbow. Its bad but i just dont want my friends hurting

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    • I know you don't want your friends to hurt, but they hurt less because they do it. At least I did.

      It's good you don't say anything. No-ones said anything to me yet. I'm 28 and I could still never show my mother! (Or not "show" specifically - I mean not cover).

      Hope you feel better soon :( it's not nice to be covered in self harm scars.

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  • I still cut, and have been doing it for years, but I don't bother to cover it up these days, like I used to. There's not much point, people aren't as observant as you'd think, and I don't expose my arm the underside of my arm that much. I'm sure people do realise it more, but I get a comment or question about it rarely, and im fine with that. Its personal, they shouldn't ask personal questions about it, like why, or stop it. But I'm perfectly fine with curiousity, like "does it hurt?". I get that's its showing a very personal part of me, but when people barely notice it, its hardly worth the effort to cover it up.
    Though when I do get asked about it, its at quite inconvienient times and I don't want to explain all my feelings and whatnot in front of everyone. If they really want to know, they should ask when I can actually explain it

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    • Since I wrote this poll, the weather has got hot and I've just let them go on show too! I have seen that other people have seen, especially at work. But they haven't asked anything. Which is good because that's the part I wanted to avoid. I just wouldn't know what to say. Has anyone ever judged you when you told them?

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      • Surprisingly no. I do get concern sometimes, which can be just as uncomfortable. However, it's a lot harder to tell if people are judging you, and sometimes its just not appropriate for them to be visible, especially if you are trying to impress someone.
        But I do have a friend that knows about it, and I don't even care if she sees.
        I guess it depends on the person for you to decide the level of modesty.
        If you don't show it off and be obvious about it, then most people won't notice or bring it up.
        Its a part of who I am, and yes I have problems, but just because it makes it more visible doesn't mean I have to be ashamed of it because people don't understand

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        • It's good that you haven't met any one who's been nasty about it yet. I kept mine covered for years, I never wanted anyone to see. I only let my boyfriend see because obviously you can't help that! This is the first time other people have seen, and I'm very concious all day and still try and hide them. But I don't want to be ashamed of myself either. I didn't choose to be depressed.

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  • mrsh

    I stopped cutting about six years ago and yep still have the ugly scars. The only time anyone ever asked about it is if it's a new friend. I just tell them I used to be really depressed, they never seem to bother me about it. I honestly forget that I have them, or maybe I'm just so used to seeing the scars idk haha

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  • Dozis

    I'm Too sensitive to pain to self harm.

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  • Dozis

    I self harm accidentally by becoming sloppy whenever somebody upsets me.
    Like,I start tripping on the stairs,bumping into objects,closing doors on my own fingers,mishandling knives,
    chewing on ice,stick fingers in my own eye,placing my hands on extremely hot or cold surfaces without even realizing what I'm doing,I only realize later when I snap out of it and notice it actually hurts.This happens because whenever I feel enough pain,either emotional or physical,or both,I go semicathatonic.Or by becoming a prick and getting somebody to kick the shit out of me hoping to get one good chance to deliver a deadly blow.

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  • VsegdaTemnata

    My ex-boyfriend and I used to cut each other for sexual and erotic purposes and I simply didn't give a fuck what people thought. I just made up lies about the scars that everyone ate up.

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  • mmmmmmm9999

    yes I harmed myself so badly and it was in obvious places and the time I didn't really care about where I did it because I wasn't thinking at the time. I have around 30 scars and a couple of burns and the burns are obvious but I just make an excuse and say its from cooking or something. im ashamed of them I just don't want any judging me without knowing what I've been through.

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  • mia1397

    Yes

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  • ObsessedWithReedus

    I honestly try to hide them but if i'm in a situation where I can't I don't really freak.

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  • JadedUnknown

    They are never really deep, so I only conceal the fresh red cuts. Also, I usually cut in a more covered place for that reason.

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  • XCoD420X

    well i cut up my arm one night the day before work after a fight with girlfriend, and went "FUCK" and since they were just scabbing over by work that morning and just covered it with an ace wrap, tho being one of the more odd people at work no one questioned the ace wrap on my arm for a few days but if anyone asked I said i hurt the muscle and was compressing it to help it feel better and no questions after that.

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  • capcrunch6

    I believe there are better way to deal with the problems in life that do not involve harming your body.

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  • Hayley761

    I used to cut while I was a freshman in high school. I really didn't cover It and it was all good. Until I got the mental Heath dpt. called on me by a counsellor. Haha

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    • That's probably a good thing :)

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  • catywompus

    I did that a long time ago. Like, almost 20 years ago. Can't see any scars now and I can't imagine cutting myself these days. I was a sad soul but things do get better, for most people anyway.

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  • there in my head no one casn see them, lucky :)

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  • Darkoil

    Not exactly the same but ive got big pink stretch marks at the top of my inner arms and chest from working out too much but instead of covering up i wear them with pride, try not to care so much what other people think.

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