Did the hospital abuse my boyfriend?

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My boyfriend has mental disorders, he is bipolar plus schizophrenia, and he had stopped taking medication which caused him to become angered easily and paranoid.

So, his mom got him a detenion order and he was sent to a hospital because of it. This anger him and according to his mom, he threw a shoe at a nurse. If the shoe hit her, or not is unknown.

However, the staff appearently tackled him to the ground, tasered him and even put him in a choke hold until he was restrained.

The next time I saw him at his visit, he had horrible looking bruises on his arms and sides, plus he had a ugly looking dark mark from the taser, that looked more like a bite mark.

Did the hospital staff go to far when they restrained him?
Or were they right in their actions?

No, they were wrong. 18
Yes, they were right. 12
SUE THEM!! 20
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  • KingRabbit
    8 years ago

    They should have doped him up.

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    • wistfulmaiden
      8 years ago

      They have to restrain him first, to give him drugs. How else... Tranquilizer dart?

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    • iEatZombies_
      8 years ago

      This comment is equal to my other thumb being up. If only I had more thumbs.

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  • noid
    8 years ago

    I didn't know they were allowed to use a taser on them. What country are you in?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      USA, and I was shocked too when I learned about this.
      Cops using tasers, sure yeah, but hosptial personnel? On a person without a weapon?

      IMO, I think they went a bit too far. If my boyfriend had a gun, or something on him, then I would understand, but obviously he did not. Plus, he just threw a shoe, which I doubt would cause any serious injuries.

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      • noid
        8 years ago

        I worked in a US state-run mental hospital for awhile. I never saw the techs use a taser when restraining patients. But it was a crazy chaotic environment and very stressful for patients and staff. Not at all therapeutic, sadly.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Is there supposed to be a comma in that first sentence? I read it as the medication was causing him to be violent, not stopping it?

    If he did in fact stop taking medication which was keeping him calm and nonviolent, I'm sorry that he experienced this, but what were the hospital staff supposed to do? Tasers do seem extreme, but having known psychiatric hospital workers, their lives are threatened daily by violet patients and I would think they were taking no chances after the shoe was thrown that his behavior would escalate.

    You're not doing him any favours by focussing on the staff as the cause of his situation rather than his cessation of his medication: I would've thought part of his journey to mental health would be learning to accept the consequences of his actions rather than blaming overworked and probably underpaid staff.

    Did you check them for bruises & other injuries, by the way?

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  • MR.mr
    8 years ago

    It sounds like they took it too far but I can't blame them they've probably had their fair share of violent patients, they did'nt personally know your boyfriend and just wanted to make sure none of the workers got hurt. I also did not know they had tasers.

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  • Sandra.D
    8 years ago

    I been up close and personal around patients and hospital staff during these kinds of incidents, and I believe it may have started off procedure, but a few unnecessary extra jabs and tugs were certainly given. its going to be heck to prove ((but not impossible)) if you sue, because the staff will hide behind the words "standard procedure"

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    • Darkoil
      8 years ago

      Why sue? They have a depressing job, shouldn't they be allowed a little fun every now and again.

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      • wistfulmaiden
        8 years ago

        It's often simply they are tired of being punching bags for every degenerate and druggie who comes in.

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        • iEatZombies_
          8 years ago

          That's literally the job they signed up for. If they aren't strong enough to handle themselves, they aren't strong enough for the job.

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          • wistfulmaiden
            8 years ago

            Nobody " signs up" to get bitten, spit on and hit. If you have that attitude nobody would do the job.

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            • iEatZombies_
              8 years ago

              Yes they certainly do. They just aren't told that's exactly what they're signing up for, because well, as you said, nobody would sign up for it.
              It is something that should be assumed, though. How else do people think an insane person would react and how else do people think they should react in return?

              There is a proper way to restrain someone without putting bruises all over them. Apparently many just aren't trained properly and/or just don't care enough about the patients.

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  • Poor-Meat-Hole-Fucked-To-Tears
    8 years ago

    This story is like being the Judge only hearing the plaintiffs side and trying to come to a verdict. Everything is hearsay.

    I find it hard to believe this person was done wrong in a hospital setting where the idea is to heal people not create wounds. With this info I believe force was justified.

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    • noid
      8 years ago

      Ever been in one of these places?

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      • Poor-Meat-Hole-Fucked-To-Tears
        8 years ago

        Was there yesterday infact getting the bottom of my foot sowed up, 5 stitches. What's your point?

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        • noid
          8 years ago

          Your last paragraph about hard to believe this was done in a place that's for healing, not creating wounds. I worked in a state hospital for awhile. Very chaotic environment, not healing. Staff meant well but were forced to be too busy to care about patients. Still, no tasers were used when patients were restrained.

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          • Poor-Meat-Hole-Fucked-To-Tears
            8 years ago

            "appearently tackled him to the ground, tasered him and even put him in a choke hold until he was restrained."

            The keyword here is "apparently" and the above doesn't imply to me he was restrained and then tased. Her story is obviously coming out garbled (here say)

            I think what she means by a "hospital" is actually a Psych Ward because who would throw a "shoe" if in a hospital you could grab and throw something more deadly...

            Ok, now lets assume he's in the Psych Ward when this happened. He was put their because as she explained he's crazy and violent.

            Moral of the story is this. Her story is going to be bias because its her boyfriend and that's seperate from hearsay.

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            • noid
              8 years ago

              Yes, psych ward. That's same as mental hospital. I thought.

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        • wistfulmaiden
          8 years ago

          I thought it was your point:)

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          • Poor-Meat-Hole-Fucked-To-Tears
            8 years ago

            That was bearly accidentally funny in a semi-modest way.

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      • wistfulmaiden
        8 years ago

        I have but I didn't cause that kind of trouble.

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  • kelili
    8 years ago

    I believe they had no choice. It was him or them.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Their actions may seem excessive, but your boyfriend became violent. Crazy or not that's what people get when the act violent and aggressive. Sorry, but your boyfriend brought this on himself.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      This is kinda unrelated, but everytime I make a poll here and I have to edit something, all the votes disappear.
      Is that a bug, or something? It's kinda annoying.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        I dunno.

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      • rimjob
        8 years ago

        It makes since though. Lemme give example: 1+1= A) 2 or B)17 . Then switch A with B after 13 votes and you have 13 idiots. Get it?

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    If he was hurting people they had no choice.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Yes, I know, but using a taser on him? They act like he had a gun, or something.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        Yeah, I see what you mean about the taser. Those can be dangerous if someone has a week heart. It's probably wiser to tackle someone and put them in restraints. Sounds like they were more than over zealous.

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  • qualityaristocrat
    8 years ago

    Hospital personnel can't take chances with potentially violent and admittedly unstable patients.

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    8 years ago

    Why would you even want to involve yourself with someone who is not only going to be a burden on you but society?.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      So, you're saying that all people with mental disorders are a burden on society and should just not exist?
      I have depression and anxiety, so, I guess I'm just a burden too, right?

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      • THEoneWHOdisagreesOFTEN
        8 years ago

        OH MY GOD!!! Givemea-what the frack ever, YOU CAN SHUT UP! Go dig yourself a hole sit there and cut yourself. But just to that it hurts but not enough to end your dumb life.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    8 years ago

    My boyfriend does security in a hospital where they don't allow gazers and he restrains people every day. I understand that some people are mentally ill but a lot of the staff is constantly getting threatened and hurt so you should look at that perspective too. I think a taser is a bit much but the cops would probably have just shot him.

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  • DolphinAngel
    8 years ago

    Since we have no idea about the details in your story or how it actually happened, we have not enough knowledge to properly answer your question.

    But since you do live in the United states of America the land of Freedom or simply 'Murica, it can't hurt to sue them!

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