Did i do the right thing in leaving her?

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I was in relationship with this girl for 3y. First two years we went in same school(we were togather almost every day). 3rd year we diden't see each other that much because of our jobs in hometown(weekends).
Next step of our relationship would be marigde.(that scared me, I wont lie.) We talked about it. Conclusion was that non on us will get married before 25.
Last couple of months of our relationship we started to have small fights. Mostly for her jealousy.
She didn't trust me.
So I told her that we could not continue our relationship without trust. I left, and now I feel so empty.

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  • Tealights
    6 years ago

    You guys tried to make the relationship too serious too fast. Marriage is always optional, it shouldn't be the next step ever, but something you two want to do, not have to do. However, it's great you two talked about it before doing anything.

    As for her jealousy, you did the right thing. Everyone feels jealousy at some point, but like anger, it's an emotion that needs to be controlled before you hurt the person you care about the most. If she doesn't have control over her own feelings and distrusting you for them, then there isn't much you can do but leave.

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  • 1986
    6 years ago

    I think you have left her because you want this. And her jealasy it was only reason for your chose.

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    • Polymorph
      6 years ago

      There's a bit of the truth in what you said. A part of me wanted to go crazy. Every now and then... Much more often lately. (I never cheated on her.)
      Thank you for your comment.

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  • IcecreamDogs
    6 years ago

    Look, go back to her. Although she may not trust you, just go and tell her that she's the reason you're in love, and you feel empty without her. Go her and tell her that, because obviously, you do.

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  • JonathanOo
    6 years ago

    Not a good way to end it but if you weren't ready then if she knows, That's that. I'd apologize if she was hurt though and explain if i could

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  • Ellenna
    6 years ago

    It's normal to feel empty when a relationship ends. Time will mend this, or you could have another try with her with no talk or thought of marriage and see how it goes. You say "small" fights, but if there were a lot of them on the same issue that's a danger sign because that sort of setup doesn't change unless both people are prepared to put in a lot of effort.

    It sounds as if you outgrew the relationship, which is what almost always happens with young schoolday relationships.

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    • Polymorph
      6 years ago

      Hi Ellenna,
      I tried to continue relationship after story I posted. It didn't work out. We fall apart after a week. I hurt her too much with leaving her.
      We exchange few texts every 3-5 days...

      Anyway things are getting in place for me now. I got my "freedom"... I just hope she is Ok.

      Thank you for your comment.

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  • Tammysnice
    6 years ago

    You both are annoying

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