Did i do the right thing

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My boss is married with kids, we like each other and we both know it. He's a very gentle guy, understanding and has an adorable boyish side. I love him so much but I don't want to be a home wrecker and I believe he wouldn't have an affair too. (he's a decent guy) Seems like during times when he feels that he has crossed the line, he avoids me. Like if there are times we stare at each other for longer than normal, or he was being over caring like noticing that I'm cold and increasing the temperature, he would avoid me later on and not look at me for the next few days. So I see that we're both trying to curb those feelings.
I recently changed a job so that I wouldn't see him again but I still think about him everyday. I'm also not the kind who falls in love easily and can't just go out and meet someone new to forget another person. So I'm feeling miserable these days and asking myself if I did the right thing or do rules of fair play not apply in love and war? 

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  • dappled
    11 years ago | pl

    You absolutely did the right thing. You may not receive any reward for it (in this life or the next) which would make many question, "Well, why do it then?" but I'd much sooner associate with someone like you than someone without any thought of anything but themself.

    I'm sorry you don't get to be with the guy you want. It's not fair. But I admire what you've done. Your type is becoming rarer and rarer. Sometimes I think there are none left at all and I feel very bleak about the world. You have done that rarest of things; gone some way to restore my faith in human nature.

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    • ANONYMUS16
      11 years ago

      Yeah u did the right thing, dont worry someday somone will love you and u back and make the ebst couple.
      And for example think this: If u were married and this other woman had an affair with him cause she loved him, how would you and ur children feel. Some children do drugs and alcahol cause of the pain they see when theyre parents arent together.
      You definetly did the right thing! :D im proud

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    • NothingxCrazy
      11 years ago

      http://i3.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/240/470/646.jpg

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      • dappled
        11 years ago

        I had no idea what this was going to be when I clicked it (my best guess was puppies) but Freddie Mercury agreeing with me is far better than I even hoped for! :D

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        • NothingxCrazy
          11 years ago

          Who wants puppies when you can have the Queen himself. :P

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago | pl

    You totally did above and beyond the right thing. It may hurt now but I'd bet money that you have avoided a world of hurt. Relationships with married men rarely ever work out in anyone's favor and I'm sure that you not only spared yourself but everyone that could possibly be involved quite a bit of heartache.

    If he can't stay faithful to his wife, he wouldn't stay faithful to you. You dodged a crazy bullet. Another one will come along, hopefully one that is single.

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  • Mmmpfh
    11 years ago

    :O
    There needs to be more gals like you.

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  • thanksforthefreecar
    11 years ago

    Good job, you are good person.

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    OP, I definitely think you did the right thing. You should be proud of yourself.

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  • kait_dona_who
    11 years ago

    As Dappled said what you did is extremely admirable. You did the right thing for sure. Even though you are feeling miserable right now I think your karma points went way up for doing that because you avoided a possible affair, which usually end bad. Even though you think he might have not had an affair the fact that he seemed to be into you could have lead to something more. But you were able to rise above your strong feelings and prevent anything else from happening.

    Bad situations that did not happen because of your choice
    1. You and your boss avoided having to see the devastated look of the man's wife when she finds out.

    2. Your boss didn't have to go through a possible divorce.

    3. Most importantly the boss' children didn't have to try to understand why their dad wouldn't be living with them anymore.

    So yeah even though you are feeling cold and alone right now, I sure that one day you will meet the man of your dreams. Just be patient. It takes time to get over someone who you have very strong feelings for. I've gone through many but I think everyone has to go through that at least once in their life. This is part of being human and weeding out the ones you can't have and eventually finding the one that is meant for you. Good luck and we are all proud of you for your choice.

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  • [email protected]
    11 years ago

    Good luck with your new job.

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  • Sunshinelolliepops
    11 years ago

    Awsome, course you did the right thing and time will heal, you will slowly forget him. Especially if you find someone single!

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    You certainly did something, the thing is, was it the wrong thing to be doing while attempting the right thing or was this thing already wrong?

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