Did i do that right thing? i'm asexual and broke up with a girl.

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I broke up with this one girl and she was really touchy feely. I told her that I just wanted a relationship that was emotional not physical like kissing, and sex. I told her many times that I don't want it and she said that I would "Get used to it." because her boyfriend and her tried it out once and that I would get used to it. She was way too clingy so I felt uncomfortable and often she didn't listen to me. So I decided to break up with her. I don't want a physical relationship- I don't like touching people- but I enjoy being in a relationship but this person was pushing it. I didn't think it was fair that she had to give it up things liked kissing and sex. So I tried to break up with her. It was only 3 weeks since we started to date and she started crying saying that "we won't break up". I don't think it was normal for a relationship that was only 3 weeks to cry over. I told her that I thought I wasn't asexual but I don't feel comfortable but would like to be friends. Because she is my best friend. I tried to tell her that we wanted different things in the relationship but she said that she "would wait" for me to become comfortable with physical contact but I know I won't ever feel comfortable. She kept on talking about what our kids would look like, where we would move to, what our life would be life in the future and it wasn't like her. I told her lets take one day at a time but wouldn't listen. So I avoided her for a while and broke up with her over the phone because she wouldn't listen to me. She cried and my friends told me this was manipulation. She said that I wouldn't be dating anyone but her. so I got freaked out and stopped texting her. I still miss her but now I wonder if I did that right thing. I tried to tell her so many times I don't like physical aspect and she was going fast for a 3 week relationship but I felt like something was wrong. I feel bad but I still wonder if I stayed in the relationship if things would've been better. Did I do that right thing??

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  • Ipooprainbows
    7 years ago

    If you weren't happy then you did the right thing ! I feel like I'm in a similar boat to you in the way that I feel pressured by my fam to get into a relationship but I'm asexual and it would be very hard for me. Also your friend sounds pushy, and that's unfair on you so don't feel bad for breaking it off :)

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Ya'll aren't compatible.

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  • Reliphell
    7 years ago

    What you did was completely ok, you should not feel bad for finishing something that was uncomfortable for you, and more if it was a relationship. For how you explained her manner of pressuring you i should not trust that "i would wait" from her, other than that i think that kiss-abstinence is not an asexuality behavior and i thing that all that disavowal was a really bad thing for her, mostly because you don't considered her feelings

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  • Jo_
    7 years ago

    It's completely fine, you weren't comfortable, it would've been very stressful for you to persue the relationship, you just did what's right. It may feel like a big deal now but you'll both get over it. But I'm not sure if it's a good idea to stay friends, it will probably get awkward or wierd and from what you said it sounds like she'd manipulate you back into the relationship, it wouldn't be healthy.
    What you did was normal and reasonable, but I would advise not to have any contact with her for a while.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    I think you did if your not comfortable in a relationship you have every right to get out of it.

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