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I have a boyfriend who I find physically attractive but sex with him just doesnt feel right. It either hurts or im not turned on enough or something but I never know what to do during it and I dont want to be a limp log but it sucks! I can (clitorally) masturbate and orgasm every time but otherwise its weird.
On top of what other people have said, it could just be that you don't like penetrative sex, or that you just aren't turned on enough. Stuff like foreplay to turn you on is important and if you're not turned on enough, it can hurt or be pretty uncomfortable.
Appears you need to spice things up a little! Don't just be a "limp log", try different things to add more excitement! Role play, games like "truth or dare", with an emphasis on the dare, use toys, try various positions, try more oral and even anal! Come on, loosen up and make it fun!
Tried 69ing once... got a bladder infection. I guess roleplaying/foreplay has been absent. I do think I need to loosen up a bit. Pun intended!
well them give him a BJ if he needs something play with his ass most men like ass play to help them cum and it feels good..me and my wife don.t have sex any more she sticks her hand up my ass and gives me A BJ i love it feels so good...life is very short enjoy it while you can....
You're not weird, since the majority of women can't reach orgasm by penetrative sex alone. Some women can, but for many women the position of their clitoris relative to the vagina means thrusting alone just doesn't provide enough stimulation.
The fact that penetrative sex is uncomfortable for you - as opposed to just being a bit meh - suggests you're probably not sufficiently lubricated. It also sounds like you're very much in your own head when you have sex: thinking too much about what's going on and how you're acting, rather than being able to focus on what you're feeling. Maybe the setting just isn't right. Maybe the on-off nature of your relationship means there's distracting stuff going on in your head. Maybe your boyfriend's approach is lacking in skill and sensitivity.
Urinating immediately after sex is always a good idea for women, since that should flush from the urethra bacteria that can cause a bladder infection.
Yeah maybe you're not attracted. I fucked with a really fat chick because I was desperate for emotional human contact after my baby girl died.