Detached from family

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Well I live with my family: mom, dad and sister, and I've never really felt terribly connected to them. Not only do I not feel like I can take my personal problems to them, they usually just aggravate them. When I grew up and had trouble in school or got in trouble for something my parents would just yell at me and insult me and expect it to get better. I'm 19 now and I've never really had a girlfriend because I have trust issues or I'm afraid of rejection or something. I don't really like being around my parents at all, and I can't really carry on a conversation with them. I have a decent number of friends but I always keep them at arm's distance and don't feel like I could really go to any of them with my problems. I went to my doctor and he diagnosed me with depression and threw some meds at me, but I hated how they made me feel (distant and cold) so I stopped taking them and he hasn't been any real help since.

Anyway I know this isn't normal but how messed up is it? I need some perspective. Didn't mean to turn this into a life story -_-

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Based on 63 votes (41 yes)
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  • shushu
    13 years ago

    i'm detached from my family, and i hate them

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  • koifish
    13 years ago

    Doctors always think depression pills will help everything.

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  • sqwidword33
    12 years ago

    Many many many many many people have lived this scenario. I just happen to not be one of them. Never the less, you have grown up to be a follower, and aren't sure how to be a leader. There is hope for you, and here is why. You need to establish trust in yourself before anything. Establish a solid ground, a part of you that you can always trust. do not trust other people more than yourself. Things will happen that will distract you from your primary priorities, don't take on a problem untill you have handled the more immediate things. Focus on yourself, become stable with yourself and don't worry about relationships or friendships just yet. Just get situated with yourself.

    There are things you need to know about yourself. Try new foods, new music. Try new activities above all things. Learn to be in control of yourself.

    The next step is to learn how to appreciate the little gifts in life. You have yourself, be thankful for that. The reason people choose to live, is because life always has more to offer. You were not given things by nature, you were left with things to coexist with. Go to a pizza place to smell the fresh cooked dough, or take a walk just to breath the fresher air. Find things that will be around for you to appreciate, and find as many as you can. And appreciate what your preciouse life offers you. When you have yourself and things you appreciate, you can safely take another step.

    Talk to people about these things, People you don't know. Give people complements, ask people questions, it can be simple. Enjoy time with other people. And don't forget that no matter how any other person acts to or around you, you have yourself, the things you appreciate, and you will not be deprived of peace.

    Don't let problems manifest any longer. You deserve more than that.

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  • geek_god_101
    13 years ago

    Meds don't do any good. I don't blame you for not taking them because they do more harm than good. Trust issues are very difficult to resolve also especially with family.

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  • LeinaBxtchh
    13 years ago

    glad to know im not da only 1 with parents like urs. lol
    my parents never gave a fuck about me, never loved me, etc. i dont talk to them like at all. when im at home im just like in my room all day. if id tell them like a personal problem or something they woudnt give a fuck

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  • unstable1
    13 years ago

    I don't think you need meds. A good counselor would be in good order. Someone who will listen to your problems and make non-biased recommendations.

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  • jrphotographer
    13 years ago

    No, I just think that you have a fear of rejection and your sad (not necessarily depressed) that you don't have a gf/bf because of your rejection issue

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    hmmm i think your depressed or on the way to becoming depressed
    you got to remember that no one can really be fully trusted say if you have a best friend who has never given you a reason not to trust them that doesnt mean they cant it means they wont but still is able to
    i think you should make due with your friends or try get a girlfriend but if you have trust issues dont open up completely to them just take it slow then if you feel like there trust worthy then let them know as much as you want to tell about yourself :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I think it's normal.I feel detached from my family too. I can't say that I love them or not. You atleast have a reason for being detached, I don't.

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  • ronni
    13 years ago

    HAVE A GOOD CAREER AND A NICE JOB, BECOME RICH AND THEN TELL YOUR FAMILY TO F**K OFF..

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