Depressed in college

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I seriously have no friends in college except for some acquaintances in my classes. Some of us exchanged numbers but never end up hanging out. I also joined a club and I'm having trouble opening up to the group because I'm introverted but I am very good at one on one talk. Everything is just extremely overwhelming and I end up going home every weekend because i have no friends to hang out with anyways. I feel really depressed and lonely and I feel myself deteriorating. I don't know what to do and I feel like I should take a semester break or something until I learn to love myself and life in general, but I also don't want to worry my parents. I want to prove to them that I can be successful and I want to give them everything they've ever wanted. If I tell them that I feel depressed they would have to get me therapist or something and spend even more money on a piece of **** like me. Everyday feels the same to me and i'm just so sad and done with life. I want to be happy but nothing ever works out. I don't see my purpose in life and it really sucks.

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  • keru
    7 years ago

    Boost your self-confidence! You might become extroverted through time!

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  • Jess1010
    7 years ago

    It's normal to feel this way at this time in your life. Everything is harder after high school and you are trying to find your own way. If you are lucky enough to be away at college, stay there. You do not want to quit, you will only be delaying what you are going through now. Stay in your classes until you find something that interests you. I would recommend not going home on the weekends and trying to think of where you are as your new place. You are mourning your childhood life but you need to get some distance to figure out your future. Stick around and keep going to different things to try and meet someone. Even if you are alone for a while, don't let it get to you, you will eventually meet someone. Good Luck.

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  • rayb12
    7 years ago

    If they are paying for your college, a therapist is still cheaper than tuition. You could also do a program like wwoof and be independent. All of this sounds completely normal, I felt the same way my first semester, and my parents pressured me into going back a second, and I ended up dropping out in April and wasting their money. You know what you're capable of and trust your gut. You are not a piece of shit, far from it, it is normal to hate college, but really, you shouldn't rush it, I've met people with great careers who took 10 years to graduate because they kept taking time off. Try to love yourself enough to forgive yourself and treat yourself like you would a best friend if they were in the same scenario

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  • tittle
    7 years ago

    I think it's pretty normal to feel isolated in college. It's difficult to make solid friends there, despite being surrounded by people. Which makes it worse, because it seems like everyone else has friends, so there must be something wrong with you. And there isn't.
    So..a few suggestions: It sounds like maybe you're already a little bit prone to negative thinking. You could try look up CBT, it's basically about questioning your thoughts and getting rid of thoughts that are unhelpful.

    You could - and this is easier said than done - just try and focus on your studies for the moment, and learn to be ok for the time being without having that many close friends. Accept that there's nothing wrong with you, it's just a result of the situation, and in time it's almost guaranteed that you'll meet some good people. So for now, don't worry and just stay ahead of your classes.

    You could bite the bullet and ask for help. The fact that you think you're too worthless for help already suggests (to me) that things are bad enough to warrant it, maybe. But being that money is always a problem, maybe you should try some other self help options first. Just don't leave it too late to ask for help.

    You could take time off. I seriously don't recommend this, from experience. People are right when they say it just makes it hard to get back into it when and IF you return.
    Seriously - ride the momentum you're on and continue with school. Unless things are so bad that you can't go to classes, I would try and avoid this option. Plus - taking time off isn't going to help you make any friends. And it may or may not help with healing yourself.

    So, try some self-help for now. See if you can find ways to boost your self-esteem, but you have to TRY. You have to want it. Try not to get stuck in a cycle of pessimism.

    ***Take this all with a grain of salt. I don't know what I'm talking about. Only you can decide what's right for you***

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