Demand that tattoo be removed..

No. It's your body and your commemoration. If she doesn't want to accept that, then fuck her.

She's possessive. Basically, she feels that she's competing with your dead wife; like you still love her more or something like that. So instead of understanding that the tattoo is just a memorial you carry with you from your past, she see it as just another tacky tattoo of an ex.

Try calmly talking to her about it, because maybe she doesn't fully understand how deep the tattoo is for you. If she's still a bitch about it, end the relationship.

I can sort of, sort of see her point about wanting you to remove a tatoo of an ex's name that you broke up with. But I do not understand her problem about keeping a tatoo of the name of someone who passed away. She should let you keep it as a memory. I don't understand her problem with that.

You should've thought about that before having it put on.

Absoloutly not, I can see how it makes her unconfy but in no circumstance should you remove such a meaningful tat at the expense of someone else

Sorry for your loss but I agree with her.
Especially seeing that tattoo during sex would be a turn off.

Loose the tattoo or loose the girlfriend. It's your choice.

I'm not keen on tattoos in general, but my previous marriage did end with the death of my wife. I don't talk about my late wife much, but if anything, my present wife is far more sensitive and sympathetic than she really needs to be when she does come up.

From what you say, I think your girlfriend's request/demand is not very reasonable. If you were constantly talking about your late wife, comparing your girlfriend to her, and saying or implying that your deceased wife was better in some way, then I think your girlfriend would have the right to get a little cheesed off. I'd also suggest that you need to consider whether you're really ready to be with someone new.

But if you're not doing something like that, and your late wife is simply someone who was very important to you in the past, then your girlfriend needs to accept that you, like her, have a history.

It does sound to me like there's a lot more going on than just a tattoo. Is your girlfriend jealous? Does she feel that your late wife had something with you that she never can? Does she believe that you love your late wife more than you love her?

Sometimes, people who get involved with widows and widowers feel like they're in an unwinnable competition with a dead person. With the passage of time, the bereaved spouse can start to forget all the human, less than perfect things about the deceased spouse, and start to idealize them. Even if the widow/er never even suggests that this is how they see things, it's still possible for the "new" person to believe it is is going on.

I think you need to have a calm, serious discussion with your girlfriend about why this is so important to her. Then you need to decide what's most important to you. There is absolutely no danger that you will forget all about your late wife if you don't have her name tattooed on you.

Required? Wtf

Tell her to take it or leave it. Besides, depending on the size and color, it takes about 20 very painful and expensive laser burns to put a dent in them. And then your usually left with white, messed up skin.

She had her chance to complain in the beginning. There is no way you should have to remove it now.

NO! FUCK NO!!!

First off it's hard to request someone remove a tatoo for any reason. But this isn't an ex its your dead wife, FUCK YOUR NEW GF!

It's your body. She can't tell you what to do with it. Keep the tattoo. Break up with her if she keeps telling you to remove it.

Nope, ideally she shouldn't be jealous of a dead person.

She should respect it, does she even have a solid reason why she wants it removed? Probably some dumb jealousy shit.Heh, but I bet if it was vice versa she wouldn't expect you to say nor feel a certain way about it.

tell her to go take a flying fuck and if she gives you any shit about it dump the bitch after anal sex. tell her she gave it a good try but you cant be with a woman that cant ass fuck worth a shit.