Dating website scenario: he/she is not as you... pictured...

I'd excuse myself and cease communication. An intentionally misleading pic is still a lie in my eyes. I can't build a relationship, let alone trust, with a liar.

If I was shown a group photo of someone with relationship potential, I'd have to be a bit of an idiot not to ask "Which one are you?" as soon as I saw it. Anyway, if they were being sly and purposefully deceptive I would never see them again (unless we had a really, really good connection), but if it was my mistake I'd definitely give them a fair chance and forget about the picture misunderstanding.

Nicely written, by the way. A good read :)

I would gorge myself in one of the most beautiful displays of gluttony ever witnessed by whalekind.

Id say fuck you you lied.

I really would never online date anyway just because of the potential that a scenario like what is described above can, and does, happen all the time.

I would always ask for a picture of the person before I proceeded, a pic of them and only them, as well. If I still found myself in this scenario I would be polite and enjoy the night as much as possible, knowing that it wont be going anywhere beyond that and I would not bother contacting the person again.

PS the girl on the far left looks much better in person then in that picture, I know because I dated her and asked her to marry me.

Your a decent writer, pretty well put together.

Call the Japanese and ask how much per pound they would buy fresh whale. Then proceed to hacking the cheeky fat bastard to bits with a teaspoon.

The same thing I'd do with any guy who pretended to be someone they are not - fall in love him and pretend he is who he says he is.

I'd stay and once the date is over, I'd explain how I never want to meet again because liars are no good and dont want anything to do with them.

I'd feel bad for them since there clearly insecure about their appearnce. That being said if they lied, I'm not sure I could really see it working out. I'd probably imply that I don't want a realationship, but I guess I'd consider a friendship with them.

You get a picture with several people on it, you ask: "Which one is you?"

Isn't that obvious?

So if you like fat men or women should you change it to them turing out to be skinny or ugly or something?

haha, cool story.

I run, fool.. run like never before.

I tried POF a few times, nothing desperate, but then I don't go out much and don't like the crowd you meet at the clubs/pubs anyway. So, one time I ran away like that, a few times had a few drinks and actually talked with the girl and then.. it was mutual, neither of us called back. And one time it was a relationship. Go figure, right? You always take that chance with online shit. if you wanna make sure -request webcam chat.

This was fun.

When in doubt: Start a war.

Coming from a german-speaking country, that option was too good to pass up.

Anyway: I would probably make up my mind on the spot that an relationship is out of the question(after all, if the person was not perfectly honest about their looks, who tells me they didn't "lie" about other aspects, too?)
I would still stay, enjoy the evening, and potentially keep contact...but only in a friend-sort of way.
We did seem to have stuff in common and it was a interesting person, after all, right? No reason to jump out of a running car, may as well let it come to a stop before exiting it.
If they are not interested in mere friendship, well, bad luck for them. *shrug* I'd probably tell them at the end of the evening that they are nice, but i couldn't imagine being in a relationship, but would be glad to stay in contact regardless.

This is why you should avoid online dating perhaps

So was it a man or woman u were meeting? Lol I can't tell. I'd advise them to update their profile to something a bit more current or honest, then I'd explain that they aren't what I expected and are not my type. And u don't have to be desperate to use a dating site. Loads of people use them in Leu of going to bars or clubs. Gives an extra buffer to the sting of rejection. So in a way, it's a lot safer than real dating.

I met a guy snowmobiling one time. I got more than what I bargained for. He posted a thing on our local news internet classifieds looking for snowmobiling buddies. No pictures or anything. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend or anything at the time, just someone to go snowmobiling with too. We met at the mouth of a canyon with our trucks and sleds. There were a lot of people there. I wasn't sure who I was looking for since there was no picture. When I realized that cute guy over there was him and he started walking towards me I shit in my snow bibs. I have never acted that way before. I felt like a school girl and was all acting weird. I'm an eye kind of person and when he looked at me with his dark green eyes I melted. This guy was so good looking I knew I have been mistaken. I felt like a blabbering idiot. I was instatly attracted to him and that's not what we were there for. It wasn't a date, it was just an adult play date lol! We had a load of fun! I've never had such an awesome day out in the mountains. It was dark and we were leaving saying thanks and stuff. I was heartbroken thinking I won't see him again until we go next time, maybe even next year. I got in my truck and he stopped me and asked if I wanted to go 'warm up'. My eyes widened and I got that weird flushy feeling in my body. I laughed all nervous and said 'what?' He laughed and said late breakfast and hot choclate? We went and got food and instantly clicked....that was 7 years ago! I'm now married to that mountain hottie! I still can't believe how we ended up!

I picked number one excuse self and stop comminication. So you are saying 4 out of 5 chance you will get a pretty one that sounds like good odds to me .

Oh DAMMIT. I didn't see the "Invade Poland" option before I voted >.<

I would continue with the evening, but then cease communication after that- the person lied about their appearance, and lying is never the start to a good relationship.

I would act like complete ass or a creep. Or both. I would start off saying aloud "It smells like shit in here- WAITER! Something smells like SH-" *pauses* *laughs obnoxiously* "That was me! I farted!!" *Bursts into tears laughing* I would then stop mid-laugh, look straight at em and say "When tonight is over, you're gonna be in love with me." Followed by slamming drinks and slurred speech. Before the night is through I would text to her my deep, dark, drunken secret about how I fucked someone before I arrived on this date. Then pretend I didn't realize I sent that to her.

I'd call them out on being a liar. If I'd come a good way from home, maybe I'd stay and see if they were nice.. but I'd probably not go on a second date unless it turned out we still had a strong connection. I don't think I'd be able to get over lying.

By the way, that was the most unnecessarily long story ever.

I was in this situation multiple times. As soon as I saw he or she was not as pictured, I turned around and left every time without saying a word. I hate liars with a passion.

First off, let me just ride the wave and say that this was well-written and pretty interesting.

Honestly I'm not a shallow person, but looks do matter. I would probably continue with the evening but, being the blunt person that I am, I would probably confront them about the picture misunderstanding. Actually, I'm not sure if I would confront them about it, since it would depend on if she purposely lied. If she did lie on purpose then I would definitely confront her about it, chances are that I won't see her again after that night. Depending on the evening I would consider being friends, but definitely not relationship material.

Well, if I really like him, then his looks won't matter much.

"Invade Poland" lol

I would say "Continue with the evening and slowly reduce communication." Not because their appearance (although, that is obviously important), but because they've already started lying.

You can assume they didn't mean to but that is more than likely an incorrect assumption

End it.

sincerely,
Francois D.

Aww ya who's that sweet piece on the left??

Because there'd been a couple of weeks of communication prior to meeting up, I'm making the assumption that there's some kind of connection. Given that, I think I'd give them a chance.

P.S. I like your polls. They're always well-written, and usually have an answer which makes me laugh. :)