Dating my cousin

The readers digest version of my story is this...my cousin & I were very close growing up, until we were both in our teens. I had a super huge crush on him, but never said anything because of the whole taboo thing. The family had become estranged, and it had been about 20 years since we talked.

Recently we re-connected, and all of a sudden all these feelings and emotions have re-surfaced, but 10-fold. We talk all the time, see each other when we can, talk of a future together & are very much in love.

So I know its "normal" to have these feelings...we aren't going to have kids (as he & I are both sterile) and we just want to be together.

Here is my "Is it normal" question: Is it normal that we are even considering getting married? I would love to spend the rest of my life with him, and I know he feels the same because we have talked about it. The only thing holding us back is my parents....I don't know how to tell them (even though I am grown & out of the house).

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  • Andy20.

    Hell I ment

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  • Andy20.

    And it's more than normal that hot as he'll turn on

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  • Andy20.

    Don't tell them at all just get married

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  • livelove12

    No thats sick

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  • uknowitaintmyfault

    wait for them to die. lol

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  • randomjelly

    There are so many options out there...you shouldn't feel forced to look for mates at your family reunions. Do I hear banjo music

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  • dude i am not trying to scare you but, many docotors say if you have kids with other family members, the kids will be retarded or something..

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  • maximumride12

    Mmmm... Idk. If u love him ya live him......

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  • me-ggy

    I think it's fine. You can't have kids, so your love isn't harming any one else.
    Cousin marriage is legal in some states, so you wouldn't have to flee to Canada.

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  • zii

    incest is never normal you sick fucks. But I say go for it if you love the dude. who fuck'n cares if I or MOST of the world think your sick.

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  • alexisfreak

    Is he your first cousin? Because if he is not, you can marry him and have sex with him. If he is, go to Canada or Mexico!

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  • 4w04se

    One thing I didn't like about marrying cousins is that there's a possibility that the kids might not grow v healthy.. But, since you're both sterile as you said.. I have got nothing to hold against marrying ur cousin whom you've always loved. I don't know why would your parents disagree.. cause he's a member of your family and that is way better than bringing some stranger (Like how they view it)to your house.
    I say Go for it ..there's nothing wrong about that. Goodluck! :)

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  • emmyems

    i'm guessing you're both sterile because your respective parents were cousins too.

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    • emmyems

      or maybe even brother and sister.

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  • JaiHo_YouAreMyDestiny

    I do not find this normal/ I now many people who like their cousins/relatives, but you shouldn't get married. Your parents would not approve. But, I'm not one to judge, so; do as you please.

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  • AAAbattery

    NO FUCK NO

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  • justlikeheaven

    what's with people and cousins?
    i don't mean to be rude here, do what you want, but i really don't understand that. it's your FRIGGEN COUSIN.
    maybe the both of you being sterile is for the best. have you never read about what happens when you have children with family members? sick.

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  • i hope your children doesnt come out with web-toes

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  • Bisjac

    You're weird, and your cousin is a perv. Nuff said.

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  • sidknee

    At least you're keeping it in the family, lol. It isn't normal, and society will never accept it. But if it makes you both happy then go for it.

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  • Shady_Waffle

    All that really matters is legality, but in a general view point, when you look at all societies, cousins marrying each other isn't abnormal despite the North American (and probably other Western countries') --cultural opinion--. People have married and even had children with their cousins for centuries and people still do in our society and in others.

    If both you and your cousin are willing to put up with the stigma that you will face in our society then I would say go for it. If neither of you can't and don't want to risk creating possible rifts with family and/or friends then I would say hold back. It will be hard and it will likely stick with you two for the rest of your lives.

    I hope whichever choice you make for yourself that happiness will follow in turn. Good luck. :)

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  • hotchickie81

    I heard it's totally legal to marry your cousin in Canada. Good luck with telling the parents... that part might suck. But if you're in love and happy, that's all that matters!

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  • No it is not normal. Come on. You are cousins. Get real. The rest of the family is unlikely to accept this. Why not just accept that the 2 of you get along, and that what you have is special, but that you are lacking in other people in your lives who you feel the same or more about. You are using the safety of your families and subsequent relationship to avoid dealing with your lack of connections elsewhere. IMO

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