Dating girl for about two months. no sex.

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I've been seeing this girl for about two months now. It's not a real serious thing - we spend time together about once or twice a week. I kiss her every hello and goodbye, and we made out a few times.

I brought her back to my place one night and I was sure it was going to happen, but she didn't seem interested so she just went home after an hour.

I haven't really brought this up with her because I'm worried she would take it the wrong way.

At one point I convinced myself that she wasn't into me and this was her way of telling me, but then she got really upset when I stopped texting her.

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Based on 38 votes (26 yes)

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Scarlett5528

9 years ago

What the hell?
You admit it is not a "serious" thing, and yet you want her to share something as intimate as sex with you?
Thats bit crazy. Have you considered she may infact be a virgin and is not ready to give it up to someone after 2 months?
. Or maybe she has self respect and isnt gonna give it up to just anyone who wants it.
if you are just in it for sex, then do her a favor and leave her. Let her find someone whos going to respect her timing for sex.
my man and myself waited over 7 months before anything sexual happend between us.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I have considered that she might be a virgin, but I doubt it. Then again we haven't even talked about sex before so I guess it's possible.
  
  If I was just in this for sex then I would have already moved on. She's a nice girl and I like spending time with her. That's what I mean when I say I'm afraid that she might take it the wrong way.
  
  On the other hand I'm not sure I could hold out for seven months though. We're both adults and it's starting to feel strange to have to bring her back home before bed time.
  
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  - Scarlett5528
    
    9 years ago
    
    Well you never know. She may very well be a virgin.
    and how old are you both?
    I made my boyfriend wait because im not the type of chick who just hops into ned with a man because we date. I wanted something real, a foundation before we had sex.
    personally, I believe sex is an intimate thing to be shared between two people who love eachother. Not just something you do when you are bored or because you can.
    but thats just me. Maybe she feels the same way. Maybe you should talk to her about it amd see where she stands.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      I'm 27 and she's 24.
      
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Syturio

9 years ago

LOL whats the problem of having no sex with a 2 month relationship.. principaly if u say "It's not a real serious thing"

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RoseIsabella

9 years ago

Is she religious? Maybe she wants to wait and only have sex if she's in love. Stranger things have happened.

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DangerousPotatoGuy

9 years ago

You need to work it out between the two of you. To me it sounds like it's not getting there when you make out. You don't just take the party back home and BAM you're down with it. You gotta flambé, then you slowly work your way towards each step and you HAVE to be as confident. She to has to be pumped about it, get it?

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iEatZombies_

9 years ago

The hell is wrong with everyone?

You said yourself that it's been two months and it isn't serious. If it's not serious then she's within her right not to screw you. She doesn't have to be a virgin or religious to come to a logical conclusion. She wants to be serious before she screws, which is actually more adult than you think. Good on her.

Buncha damn sex-starved weirdos, all of ya. Gawd.

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- HideTheSalami
  
  9 years ago
  
  You are so right. I needed to hear that.
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  She's well within her rights to do anything. She's well within her rights to go run off to a monastery never to be seen again. I don't want that but it would be her decision.
  
  I'm just asking if it's normal to not seem interested or even reject my advances after that much time without really any attempt from her to explain what's going on.
  
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  - iEatZombies_
    
    9 years ago
    
    I answered you. It's not only normal to not sleep with someone you're not serious about, it's also respectable, responsible, and smart.
    
    My comment was in response to you and everyone else, so it was a bit more general. Regardless, she's being normal and you're being impatient.
    
    Also, yes it will bother her if you ask her why she won't screw you. She'll feel like she is even less serious to you than the relationship is. She'll feel botheed that you want to sleep with her -before- things get serious. Woman are emotional screwers. They want to feel comfortable and secure about the person they're sleeping with. Men see sex as the act that sparks potential, women see sex as the act that ties together what's already there.
    
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    - HideTheSalami
      
      9 years ago
      
      I dumped a girlfriend because after 3 months she wouldn't let me unbutton her shirt. Her friends said it took her two years to get over me. Go figure.
      
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Robert_Grant

9 years ago

Stop letting your mind wander and sit her down and talk to her. I dated a girl for a year once before engaging in the act and this was due to my fear of it causing a loss of friendship. Perhaps she's in this same situation or perhaps she wants to ensure that there's going to be something in the future prior to committing the act.
First and foremost; if she is into you, be proud that she has restrained; as this is not a normal practice in today's society. This would show that she is a very restrictive lady and that she doesn't quickly jump into (or out of for that matter) relationships.

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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

If you're trying and she isn't and you want to take it furtherand she is preventin that, then look for someone else that would do that with you

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HideTheSalami

9 years ago

This whole thing sounds like she's a non-sexual person that is developing a non-sexual dependency on you. The sooner you get out the better.

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(s)aint

9 years ago

She doesn't owe you an explanation for not wishing to have sex with you. But if you are the kind of person who thinks that sex is an important part of your life and that you want to do it you might want to try and find out how she feels about it because it's a recipe for disaster if one person isn't too interested in sex but the other one are.

It is an awkward situation but as someone else said, ask her where she stands and tell her you are attracted to her.

If she gets offended she might not be the one for you and both of you are better of knowing this asap.

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derpyderp

9 years ago

You were sure it was going to happen but did you make a move?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Yes I did but my advance got semi - rejected so I just let that be the end of it.
  
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  - derpyderp
    
    9 years ago
    
    Semi-rejected?
    Care to share?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      We were messing around a little on the couch. Tried to pull her in closer but she resisted. Asked her to turn off the lights but she said no.
      
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      - derpyderp
        
        9 years ago
        
        OK. Obviously there's a fine line between taking charge & being forceful & it sounds like you had a decent crack without being a jerk.
        
        As awkward as it may be, you might have to talk about where this is heading.
        Not strange of her to get to know you first but you should be on the same page for where you want to end up...
        
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mountain-man82

9 years ago

She may just need more time to get comfortable enough for sex. Try talking to her about it if you feel strongly about it.

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I_steal_free_bread

9 years ago

Cheat on her for a little bit and see how you feel.

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randypete

9 years ago

is she a prick teaser ?

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HideTheSalami

9 years ago

Dude. Pump body heat.

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