Curious, how did you find out your partner cheated?

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It's gotten worse and it's probably gonna keep getting that way. Everyone cheats, it sucks. Even if you are not that "type" of person, you know you cheated. People swear they haven't cheated but are capable of being so in denial. The recent cheater I discovered was my friend's duude who is the cousin of my dude's roommate. His cousin and him don't get along and as revenge, he showed us screenshots of his cousin asking for blowjobs from this girl in the morning after coming from my friend's house. I was so shocked because it really looked like he was head over heels for her and then he pulls this crap? If he cheats, definitely every guy cheats. So I'm curious, how did you find out your partner cheated? What evidence was provided? Or was just being suspicious and having it run through your head constantly enough to break it off?

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derpyderp

9 years ago | pl

"If he cheats definitely every guy cheats"

Fuck off...

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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

I like that added in bit of sexism at the end...No, not all guys cheat, I think I even read something a while agoo saying women were more likely to cheat aswell. Either way, if all men apparently cheat, then what do we have to lose, eh? We should just cheat on people all the time because according to you we always do. May aswell collect the benefit of the actual act rather than just the accusation.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Meh.. My example was about a guy cheater but I'm asking about guys and gals. I KNOW girls cheat. Like i said, everyone's a cheater now.
  
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  - CountessDouche
    
    9 years ago | pl
    
    Bullshit- I've never cheated.
    
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    - Darkoil
      
      9 years ago
      
      Not even a little like a pinkie up someones bum?
      
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      - CountessDouche
        
        9 years ago
        
        How did you figure out what I was giving everyone on IIN for Christmas? :|
        
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        Darkoil
        
        9 years ago
        
        Oops sorry I spoiled the surprise, my bad.
        
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  - (s)aint
    
    9 years ago
    
    I have never cheated and I never will. I´m mature enough to end a relationship if things aren´t working -_-
    
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pastor_of_muppets

9 years ago

I have never nor will I ever cheat.
Don't try and make every person seem like a cheater just because you have issues.

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Weltanschauung

9 years ago

I think you are slivhtly mistaken in your logic. Just a smidge. Everyone has the desire to cheat and so everyone is capable of cheating, true. But what separates the faithful from others os that they have strong enough principles to never act on those urges.

Also, that you assess someone's propensity to not cheat by how "head over heels" they were over a person proves you have yet to learn a lot in life.

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ToReachWhatCan'tBeTouched

9 years ago

That's like saying all females are dirty whores that just sleep with anyone (with no consideration for it). It's not true. I may be single but if I ever had a partner, I would never cheat (I'd rather die). I utterly despise those who do. I don't support "friends with benefits" either. There's absolutely no point of a relationship if you don't go into it fully inlove with your hypothetical partner (as well as only having sex with him or her).

And yet many people support or even act on polygamy/polyandry. That's just accepted cheating.

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- Ellenna
  
  9 years ago
  
  I agree with yr post except for last sentence. How is it "cheating" (which implies dishonesty) if everyone involved is being open and honest? The people I know who practise polyandry put a lot of time and energy into really clear communication so that no-one feels cheated on.
  
  I'm not so sure about polygamy because that usually seems to involve one male ruling the roost with a harem of submissive women.
  
  And then of course there's polyandry - one woman with more than one male - yum yum yum
  
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Ilovewinter12

9 years ago

Found out from another friend of mine. I didn't hesitate calling him out and ending it right then and there.

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Fall_leaves

9 years ago

One lie can make every truth feel like a lie.

I found out on my own. I asked the girl, I talked to her explained the situation and she ended things with him, I waited for him to respond he ignored the issue and then I in a very angry and broken state of mind exposed him as the asshole he really was. Had he been the one to come forward and tell me himself I would have walked away and not put another thought into it but being told that your partner kept such a huge secret for months was hard.

Your partner should be the one to tell you, you shouldn't have to find out from someone else.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Sorry about that. :/ Ive never been cheated on. Why am I so confident about that? Cause Ive only had one bf and he was just head over heels for me. BUT ive been cheated with, without knowing about the gf. Such a mess. From then on, I despise cheaters. Your first statement is spot on.
  
  Hope you are on to better things!
  
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Jeaneathean

9 years ago

Two glasses and a half-drunk bottle of wine in my bedroom.

Classic.

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- anti-hero
  
  9 years ago
  
  Maybe she just lost the first class.
  
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  - Jeaneathean
    
    9 years ago
    
    Don't know what you mean.
    
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    - anti-hero
      
      9 years ago
      
      Maybe she had the bottle and a glass. Drank a glass. misplaced the glass. got another glass. drank from that glass. Then found the original glass.
      
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      - Jeaneathean
        
        9 years ago
        
        You are being charitable. I found out not long after she had been shagging my so-called flat mate.
        
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        anti-hero
        
        9 years ago
        
        Devil's advocate is a fun game.
        
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timetochange

9 years ago

I was married for 19 years and never cheated on her. She dead for a year when I found out she cheated on me from the start. She even cheated on me when she was waiting on lung transplant. A lot of people cheat. It is fact of life. Do I hate she had sex with someone else? No. It hurts that she lied to me.

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101714

9 years ago

my ex cheated on me and ever since then i never trusted a guy ever. sounds racist right? but then its true.. all guys will cheat somewhere in their life. i would know.

i found my ex cheating on me with my best friend. i thought i could trust her.

there were rumors about them. so i immediately realized he was cheating on me.

in the end he broke up with me. i was such a lovesick puppy that i couldnt find the courage to dump HIM. so he dumped me. made up an excuse that people were talking about us and he didnt like it. later i find him and my best friend eating eachothers faces off.

dont trust everyone. not everyone can be trusted. up to now i cant trust boys. even though i have a boyfriend at the moment.

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wistfulmaiden

9 years ago

I never did, find out or he didn't cheat. Cause if I did find out Id cut off his weewee most likely.

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green_boogers

9 years ago

The OP is using "all" in a very brash way. All men are not cheaters. Some men are. I would say it's less than 90%.

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theseeker

9 years ago

See what's messed up is many people seem to think cheating is just something that happens all the time. That bothers me a lot. That is a fucked up way of thinking! It's like do people have morals anymore?

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dynamohumm

9 years ago

Thank you :) Like I said it's all good now. The kids themselves stopped wanting to see him over 14 years ago themselves, so they have good sense.

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dynamohumm

9 years ago

Yeah, my alcoholic, violent ex husband actually told me that he was sleeping with the 17 yr old "babysitter" for my daughter after he drove her home one night and said the reason why he did it was because we were such good mates and he didn't want to lie to me and that because I was not the girl that he met and had let myself go....I was fucking 8 months pregnant FFS!

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- anti-hero
  
  9 years ago
  
  Wanker.
  
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  - dynamohumm
    
    9 years ago
    
    Thanks mate.....but how bloody stupid was I to actually get married and have 2 kids by this wanker? Oh well I got 2 great kids out of the deal, so it's all good.
    
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    - NormalIsAsNormalDoes
      
      9 years ago
      
      That's fucked up. I am sorry to hear that.
      
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    - anti-hero
      
      9 years ago
      
      It was meant to be.
      
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ginsters101

9 years ago

guys cheat, girls cheat. I read a text from my wife to an ex of hers. it was very short - just the name of the hotel she would be staying at when she was away on a course. She fucked him, as proven by the semen residue in her panties. initially I was really hurt, but nowadays I really love the thought of her being reamed by another man, and I love going down on her when she gets home, eating out his cum.

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Ellenna

9 years ago

He confessed! I was young & trusting at the time (a long long time ago) and had no idea. I wasn't so shocked at the adultery because there'd been no reduction in our active sex life, but I felt humiliated that our so-called friends (really his as it turned out) had known about it all along and I hadn't.

It was a classic case of him wanting an "open marriage" but really only open for him.

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