Cruel turn down

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I asked out a girl I've known for awhile and got turned down. I was surprised actually that she said no, we got along well and her best friend Jacky had been trying to hook me up with her for a while. So I asked why.
She said I was not the type of guy she wants to date or fuck, and she said she made that clear in no uncertain terms in the car.

The car she's referring to was a from a trip the 3 of us took over the weekend. I was confused by this because I don't recall anything of the sort, she seemed to get along with me and Jacky even talked her into flashing us. She said Jacky got the message I just didn't for some reason.

I'm also confused since she said Jacky understood, because Jacky immediately after we got back from the trip still tried to get me to go for her, and even a few days later was telling me to try for her. Jacky is my friend as well so I don't think this is some kind of joke for her, I think she's as oblivious to what the girl was talking about as I was.

Anyways, I feel actually somewhat hurt, not for being turned down but by the way she did it. She didn't need to say I was someone she had no interest in fucking and neither Jacky or I got that she wasn't interested in the car ride, so I don't appreciate be talked to like that.
is it normal I feel hurt by this.

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  • fluffy1uv
    7 years ago

    It's really not that cruel to say you aren't her type... Ive rejected perfectly sexy guys just because I'm into bigger dudes. Like, i know I'm attractive and i would turn myself down you know what I'm saying?

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  • Cocomilktitties
    7 years ago

    First of all, I feel bad for you that you got turned down. As far as it being cruel, I mean I feel bad for you and all, but at the same time, you kind of asked for it. You asked her to give you a reason, and she was honest. Lots of times, guys complain that girls aren't direct enough or honest enough with guys about whether or not they like them... that obviously isn't an issue with this girl

    You seem confused about why she turned you down and maybe why she reacted the way she did. It seems like you got the idea that there was some interest from her, when it seems like there might not have been. I think you should ask yourself "Did I do anything to turn her off?" or "Were there any signals that I missed or misinterpreted?" This will help you in the future with girls to be able to tell if it is worth going for it or not.

    It seems like maybe she was irritated based on what she said about the trip. If she was trying to send a message to you guys, then maybe there was something that happened that turned her off from your advances or something like that.

    Most of all though, don't take it too personally. When girls say that you're "not their type", sometimes that really just means that they have a very specific preference of guy and it may not be anything against you or even how attractive you are, it may just be that she likes guys of a certain race, or maybe she likes more edgy guys, or maybe she likes nerdy guys, or maybe she likes big guys, or skinny guys... who knows? It could be a lot of things.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    I think how cruel the turn down was would depend on how persistent you were. I do think it was rather crass and vulgar of her to say you're not the type of she would want to date or fuck, however I don't think there's anything cruel or particularly sad or mean about the fact that she would never want to have sex with you.

    The thing with her best friend is kinda weird though.

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  • Ghost-of-dreamsao
    7 years ago

    People reject other people everyday. It's normal. Just move on and accept that she isn't the one. There are literally billions of women in this world who have the potential to be the one for you. Don't get stuck on one not liking you.

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