Could you blame me?

So, I was in a long distance relationship with this guy. Just a few states away, I've never met him in person, but we have video chatted and all that. But that's all irrelevant, we started dating in mid July, and it's now late August. At this point, everything was going good, I was planning a trip to visit him, I was fully commiting to this relationship and letting go of old feelings. Then, this morning, he decides he's not ready and needs time to heal from his exes. I didn't react badly, I mean, I totally can relate. It was early into the relationship, but I still miss him. It hurts, of course. I was falling in love with him and he wants to be alone, out of nowhere. I didn't let this part get to me, I doubt we'll get back together. On that thought, he wanted us to still be friends. and of course, I said no. Why? because I'm hurt and still basically in love with him, to pretend to be friends like everything's honky dory right away seems retarded. The part that bothered me is that he made me feel like a bad person for not wanting to be friends. I don't want to go through the process of being friends, watching you move on, getting hurt, not being able to express my feelings for you, only to end up not speaking in the end anyways. I think he's trying to make himself feel better, but whatever. Is it normal to not want to stay friends with an ex?