Coping mechanisms to social alienation

For much of my life, I've felt very alienated. Talking to other people always felt like a chore or inconvenience. I rarely have a conversation in which I can relate, but in social surroundings, I'm compelled to add to the conversation. The majority of what I say in groups of people are careless ramblings. I feel as that's my way of entertaining myself. I often find myself in situations where things are so dull I feel I need to do something disruptive in order to make the drudgery bearable. People often think I'm hungry for attention and view me as somewhat of a clown when in reality I'm not trying to get anyone's attention; I'm trying to keep myself from going brain dead. I feel as though many classmates of mine view me as the guy whose always trying to be funny, causing them to disregard anything that comes out of my mouth. But when I actually feel the need to discuss what's truly on my mind, the people around me are always surprised by any amount of intelligence that they become so awe-struck that they don't even take what I say seriously. This led me to believe that this process started because of nobody really understanding what was on my mind in the first place, so at some point in my life I developed a way of coping with other people's lack of understanding. Now before you all think I have a superiority complex, I'm speaking of my actions in groups in which I don't truly relate to. (Mostly classmates. People who don't actually know the "real" me.) In my friend group however, I always have a strong need to speak my mind and engage in intellectual discussion. In classes where I don't have any friend to talk to, I always get trapped in some kind of complex thought while being able to process whatever we're learning. But if I get called on to answer anything, I'll sit there for an awkward few seconds and not be able to answer a simple question, as if I can't snap back to reality. It's annoying because this only reinforces everyone's idea of me being an unintelligent pothead when I know I was constructing ideas in my head that nobody in the room could even comprehend. Does anyone feel this way or have a similar way of dealing with misunderstanding? And do your coping mechanisms (Acting like a fool in large public groups/focusing all your attention towards personal thoughts in awkward surroundings) lead others to believe that you're unintelligent?

-Sorry for the rant.

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  • TheLostSoul

    dude i gotta say reading that was like a play by play of my mindset....
    ur totally not alone on this one thanx

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  • Kevin034m

    All im gonna say is that "complex" persona that you put on is a tough one to carry. You must seem physically threatening as well as intellectually threatening if you want to carry that. and i mean you better look like an athlete.

    Im sure you're intelligent and full of potential. if u want to continue to become to class clown try to think about all the people you could offend and weigh out whether it should be said or not.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs

    You need to chill the fuck out dude

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  • Shackleford96

    Did you not already post this exact same story?

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  • graphic_nature

    You should move and get a fresh start to reaffirm your identity. Once you've been labeled in school, you really can't change your classmates minds.

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  • Lotus420

    Yeah a lot of people feel social awkwardness, it's normal. Maybe come prepared to large group scenarios, with some jokes or anecdotes to tell so that you don't say something random that might not make sense to everyone at that moment. And hang out in more groups of people that you share common interest with and there will be plenty to talk about and you won't have to worry about it. Quiet can be mistaken for dumb, so just agree, or respectively disagree, or share similar experiences, and act interested in whatever they're saying.
    Sometimes when I'm high with a group of people who are not high, I assume they are thinking things that they aren't, and it alters what I might say to them. People talk about careless ramblings in big groups because it can be uncomfortable to talk about controversial or deep issues, you never know what's happened in other people's lives.

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  • Wasn't this a poll? Anyways, I understand where you're coming from. People need a way to entertain themselves, as long as they have an audience why stop the show? Some people hate you, some people like you, in the end we're all dead. As long you a person has people in their lives that accept and understand them, who cares what other people think?

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