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My boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over half a year, and i find him to be a great guy and love him. but sometimes he does things as in telling me not to go places because he does not want me to go. reasons being that he does not want me to see any other guys, or because he doesn't want me to go. does this seem controlling? Is it normal for a boyfriend to do that?
its not normal. it depends on him actually and how you two are, but trust me, with my experience, its just going to get worst man, trust me. im in a controlling relationship, and its too late because im so in love with this guy right now that im like trapped because im not able to break up with him. and you'll just end up getting really hurt. talk to him about why he doesnt want you going out, and if he cant give you any better reasons, then its going to only get worst. i can't even leave my house anymore, without him saying something stupid about it. that's my experience, so im just letting you know to be careful and be more smarter than i was!
No. Your alarm bells should be ringing. Where does he get off telling you where you can & can't go?. And what is his problem that he he does not want you around other guys. Trust & control issues. But do hang out with him if you like being a piece of property.
alright i've had enough of these type of questions So which question would you like me to answer would you like the best.
does this seem controlling?[yes]
Is it normal for a boyfriend to do that? [yes]&[no] the ones who want you up there ass and around the corner 24/7.
Well if he is telling you not to go for safety reasons possibly just have your best interest in mind. If he says you can not go somewhere since you can not be seen by other guys he does sound controlling. I will say right now some places are known for rape to happen like bars and raves.
Everyone whovsaid it isn't normal is stupid. It is. I was once like that. He most likely got hurt. Because if u are in high school (which this sounds like) then he just needs to grow up. I myself talk with my gf of 2 years about how I feel and why and she laid all my worries to rest :) I just want her safe. If you can get him to open up and talk with his heart you will be fine. It will convert from jealousy and mistrust into worrying about your safety and well being I hope I haven't blabbed to much hope this help!! Just talk. If he says he's been hurt think of something special and sweet that neither you have done and it will be a bonding experience on such a deep level. Nowhe could just be a controlling prick who is abusive. If he can't give u a good reason why dump him. It will turn into abuse!!
It will get worse slowly in little increments as time ticks on because you don't stop him from doing it he rinks it's fine and it's not okay!!. Don't Marry him because you will be under his thumb...in due time he may even become violent and threatening or insulting it's a dangerous path be careful!!'
It's not normal. No person in relationships have the right to tell the other where they can and cannot go. Course there is the matter of respect where if you know ur spouce won't like you doing something then DONT do it, even without them asking you not to.
Honestly, think about the fact you have to ask.. Is this normal? Obviously not. You see that there is something wrong with this situation. If you dont like it, ask him whats up. tell him how it bothers you. But, if it doesnt change soon, something has to be done.
yea he is being controlling and jealous o would put a stop to it before it gets to far or bad good luck
It is normal to feel the way he does, maybe even to voice it. HOW HE REACTS should you disobey him is what you need to watch.
I'm guessing red flags. I don't want mine going to a strip club, and if he did, I would drop him FAST. But it is not my place to dictate, just to let him know my feelings on the subject, that it would hurt me, and if he loved or respected me, he would think before going.
But, that is NOT just ANYWHERE, and after 6 months, if you are asking, it is because you KNOW he is being unreasonable.
FOLLOW YOUR GUT. It generally gets worse...
I am a straight male, but If my woman ever did that to me, id confront her asap, and if she was ashamed of being seen with me id kick her out of my home. Now if she is afraid of her PARENTS seeing her with me, I could tolerate it. If he is just being controlling in particular... well some of us guys are like that, and many girls love it, now you need to find out not if its normal, but if you can live with it.
Good luck girl, and if you do not like it, do something about it before its too late. Dont let anyone mistreat you.
It's pretty normal. He just maybe a little insecure. Maybe he got cheated on before? Who knows. I would just talk to him about this problem and maybe he would open up and let you go off and do more things. To say this is not normal is like never being in a real relationship. Lol.
I'm sorry, but this is not normal and many people who have been in a real relationship (including myself) will say so.
Jealousy can be normal, BUT the actions taken as a result aren't always normal. In a romantic relationship, telling someone when and where they can go is NOT normal and NOT right no matter what.
To the OP: These are well known early warning signs of a relationship heading into abuse. My advice is get out while you can. No matter what the excuse is, he does not have the right to control your life. He should get help and you should move on. You deserve someone who loves and respects you.
It is normal. He's just jealous and a little insecure. If you need to when it gets out of hand, you could talk to him about it. Surely he'll tell you his reason. He loves you doesn't he? He must have his reasons.