Continue to ignore, or tell them off?

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Someone I used to hang out with keeps trying to contact me. I've been ignoring them for almost a year. They keep emailing me their phone number and trying to get em to call/text them. They used to try to show up at my old job, but I happened to not be there the couple times they showed up and I don't work there anymore, but still....It's getting real annoying.

There's no unresolved issue, we just broke off hanging out, the 'party was over' and it was understood, so I don't get why they keep trying to contact me, especially since I've ignored them all this time.

Should I tell them off now or just keep ignoring them? I'm wondering because if I tell them off it might backfire and they might get more obsessed with me, or it might turn into something bigger (I don't WANT to have an issue here, I don't want to have to be nasty) but it's getting beyond annoying to have them keep popping up. I really don't know what to do, and why they haven't taken the hint yet.

Anyone have a similar experience, as either the annoy-er or annoy-ee? Please tell your story!!

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dom180

12 years ago

If they know that you're no long friends, maybe the person has something important they want to tell you, but you keep ignoring them. Ask want they want, and if they can't come back with a coherent answer THEN it is time to tell them how you feel.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  I tried what you said. Well, the reply was basically disbelief that I didn't want to talk to them anymore, and they even accused me of being someone else posing as me typing the message for them to move on.
  
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  - dom180
    
    12 years ago
    
    Can't you block them on from talking to you online on whatever site you are using? That's what I'd do to show them I'm serious.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      12 years ago
      
      They're contacting me on yahoo email, and I thought of blocking them but a) they wouldn't know I blocked them and b) I'd kinda like to know if they're still sedning me stuff. I feel like I definitely want to know if they are still emailing me. I wouldn't be able to stand not knowing if they stopped or not. It's not the messages that are annoying me, it's the person.
      
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  They don't have anyhting imporant, they just keep thinking that there's hope that we can be friends again. Like they haven't moved on. But I'll try your suggestion....however knowig the person, I'm not sure this will work.
  
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  - PrincessLollipop
    
    12 years ago
    
    I was in a situation like this where my ex friend was like LITERALLY stalking me. She would call, call, call, email, call my friends, pop up at my house, go to my job, etc. I just kept ignoring her and she finally went away.
    
    I find it hard to be mean sometimes unless someone did something like really bad to me or hurt my family. I felt bad for not wanting to be her friend, but sheesh, give me A BREAK. If it gets to the point where you feel unsafe, put a restraining order or something. if not, I would just keep ignoring that person.
    
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rin

12 years ago

I have a similar experience. I lived in NV for a year and made a few friends (not really close or anything just talked at school/hung out rarely). After I moved I stopped talking to this one girl. We weren't close friends or anything but she kept texting me, and calling me, and tried adding me as a friend on facebook and messaging me. I just ignored her although I did feel bad but she wasn't the type of person I like to be friends with she's a ditz. Some people can't take a hint. It lasted for 3 years. (She would text me or call every couple months).

This person sounds like a stalker though I would tell them how you feel.

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equanimity

12 years ago

Confront them and have backup in case it gets ugly.

That's what I'd do.

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RockerRoseanne

11 years ago

I knew someone like that, except we didn't really hang out, she was just someone I talked to at times. She would not get the hint that she was not wanted. She has annoyed me quite a few times which resulted in her being hurt physically but she still would not go away. I had to tell her that she was dead to me for her to leave. I'm not happy I said that, but I am happy that I don't have to worry about her annoying me anymore.

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Anonymous Post Author

12 years ago

Has anyone ignred a person like this and what happened? Did it get worse or go away, or did it come to a point here you had to call the cops?

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- rin
  
  12 years ago
  
  Personally I would send a text.
  
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Energy

12 years ago

Sounds like a stalker. I'd keep ignoring them unless, you think they might be some crazy psycho, then you might need to take some serious action.

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Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

12 years ago

Is there a reason you won't tell them "no thanks"?

I mean granted if they constantly try to talk to you when you always ignore it may be that they aren't getting the hint.

but if it's just random like once in a while, and if they showed up where you work simply because they were in the area... it may not be as horrible as you make it out to be

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  That's the ting, they live over an hour or so away and it's inconvenient for them to show up, plus they don't have a license, so it's not as if it's an easy, normal thing to do.
  
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  - Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    
    12 years ago
    
    that's a lot of effort to come see you...
    
    in light of that you perhaps should let them know in simple terms - don't just ignore them and hope they figure it out, tell them plainly. i mean be polite but make it clear.
    
    if they continue ... then consider more official means such as blocking, contacting the police etc
    
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  - Crudhouse
    
    12 years ago
    
    Why don't you like that person (or them) any more? Have you moved up the social ladder?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      12 years ago
      
      This person is NO good. We hung out as a group of friends but things quickly went downhill, they and the friends were always in trouble, doing drugs, scamming, and things like that and I didn't want to be involved. This particular person isn't soooo bad, but I can't associate with any of those people, I don't need or want that trouble. This person is the type who will do anything to impress friends, or be the center of attention, and is well known by the police so even to just be seen with them, it's trouble for me even though I'm not doing anything wrong. I don't want to be associated with them, period.
      
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      - Crudhouse
        
        12 years ago
        
        If you added that to your description I guarantee the responses would have been quite different lol. The next question is...are you scared of him/her and what he might do? If you aren't tell him to his face...otherwise ignore him until he forgets you
        
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