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Since 6 years ago Ive been thinking and dreaming about murdering others and myself. I keep coming up with ways/stories in which how I can carry out the act and how bloody it can be. Ill never do it...at least not now but is it normal to think all this?
You shouldn't be ruminating on murder. You need to change your thoughts.
It's not "normal" at all, but you shouldn't feel ashamed or think any lesser of yourself over it. You likely are a "sociopath" or have some form of Sociopathic tendency. This word "Sociopath" has a bad reputation, mostly from being associated with Serial Killers/criminals and being similar to "psychopath" and often mixed up between the two words etc..
However, many scientific professional studies have shown that at least 1 out of every 100 people is a "sociopath" to some degree.(some recent studies find that there are actually alot more who are simply hard to diagnose or afraid to honestly answer questions, since sociopaths are often quite smart, logical, and calculating; and realize that they could be treated differently if their "secret" got out.)
That means that if your high school had 1000 kids, then AT LEAST around 10 of them were having similar feelings like you. Think about that, that means in a tiny town with 10,000 people (like mine, 8,00 here where i live) there are at least 100+ people like you. How many crazy murders have you heard of in tiny backwoods town this year? This is because most people don't act on their sociopathic tendencies and feelings.
That said, there is always a possibility that someone MAY eventually act on their feelings. You could end up with a really bad set of events all at once in life that stresses you to the max and triggers you to say "fuck it" and try to attack someone, you could have a drug, prescription or illicit, that worsens your symptoms and feelings, etc..etc... So if you want to truly fit into society and not risk doing something considered "evil" by all your friends, family, and society; then you would probably be best off visiting a good psychiatrist or therapist, just tell them the whole truth about your feelings and they won't judge you or tell anyohne. They will most likely ask you to keep coming once a month or every few months etc.. (depending on your condition and such) so they can talk to you and see if you truly have this "issue" or not and they could possibly help you get rid of it with conversation therapy, or medication, or a combination of the two etc... or just keep your stress levels managed enough that you never ACT on your feeings.
Basically, Sociopathy is an impulse control disorder at heart. It's kinda like OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) where people get uncontrollable cravings to do certain things like washing their hands once every hour exactly or unlocking and relocking doors exactly three times before bed every night etc.. In your case it's just that the quick little "Ugh...i swear i'm about to kill someone" harmless thought in the back of your head when mad or something, instead of just flashing into your mind and going away like it does with other people, will STAY in your mind long enough to make you actually start THINKING about it. At this point it's just thoughts in your head, which as you said (i wouldn't actually kill anyone you said right?) are just thoughts, nobody actually died. So as long as you keep it that way it isn't "normal" but is certainly OK and does NOT make you a bad or crazy person in ANY way!
SO....TL:DR = Sounds like Sociopathic feelings/tendencies. No you are NOT a psycho killer, do NOT think of yourself as inferior or insane etc... Go see a professional therapist who will either say that you're perfectly normal or tell you ways to deal with these feelings.