Considering losing virginity to someone i'm not attracted to

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I've always been attracted to older men with at least a 13 years' age gap. Getting together right now is futile but I have a high libido and am considering having my first time with a boy a year older than me. I'm not sexually attracted to him though, or anybody around my age. But honestly it's just an act, right? I've been told it will be awkward and even painful; should I get that over with? It's not like it can never be 'special' again. When I'm older, I would like to make advances with men as it would be more appropriate. I would then be more experienced, yes? I don't want to be a virgin in my 20s...

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    You would be much better off to have your first sexual experience with a man, not a boy. A boy is going to be much more interested in his own pleasure than yours.
    A man, on the other hand, has the experience and patience to attend to your needs and put them before his.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Save yourself for someone you love who loves you too.
    :-)

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    • harddrystickysocks
      8 years ago

      Imagine being attacked by a flock of geese.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        Unfortunately, I have had the experience of witnessing waterfowl gang rape.
        :-(

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  • Alyss
    8 years ago

    Boy in early 20's w/virginity intact, not so hot. GIRL in early 20's w/virginity intact, most mens fantasy. Js. Save yourself.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Why do men fantasise about virgins?

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    • Shackleford96
      8 years ago

      It's remarkable how societal norms force certain pressures on people. How unfair it is, that we should look at a guy like a loser and a girl as a success for those reasons...

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      • VinnyB
        8 years ago

        But is this even true anymore? I am sure that there are still men than prefer a virgin, but generally speaking, most men I know prefer someone who has an idea of what they are doing, and I rarely, if ever, hear virginity listed as a attribute a man is looking for. I think the idea that a virgin is "most" mens fantasy is no longer true, and becomes less and less true every day. I also don't know any men who are looking for a woman who is waiting for marriage, because that would require him to wait for marriage. I am speaking really for the US ans similar countries. I am sure there are places in the world wity vast cultural differences where this may still be the norm.

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        • Shackleford96
          8 years ago

          Hmm, those are some good points. Now I'm not so sure. I don't really know enough people to make an accurate response.

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  • fratom
    8 years ago

    Save yourself for some one you love value, trust and resepct and that he is returns that for you: be safe: you might have a very poor appreciation of losing your virginity to someone who just wants to satisfy your need right now. take your time

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  • Angelmikeal0
    8 years ago

    angela

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    8 years ago

    Oh, and for the said man in the future, I thought inexperience was unattractive.

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  • Murun
    8 years ago

    Find a man you are attracted to. It will be a much more pleasurable experience for you both. No man would mind your inexperience.. They'd enjoy helping you find what you like.

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  • pixie44
    8 years ago

    I did the same thing my first time, I just wanted to get it over with and I really regret it. I wish I waited for someone I was really into and have a good experience.

    Also everyone is different. For some its painful and for some its not. It was very painful for me.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      But why do you regret it? I don't understand why people are calling it a waste; it can happen again.

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      • pixie44
        8 years ago

        Yes you can have sex again but your first time will never happen again.
        It's up to you what you want to do. Maybe you won't regret it like I do.
        I just feel like I should have waited, sex isn't all that's its talked up to be. It means more with someone who you care about. If that makes sense.

        But at the end of the day ITS YOUR BODY. You have the choice to do what you want with it. Just make sure your completely sure you want to do it. Don't let people peer pressure you.

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  • Gspyder
    8 years ago

    Sounds like a waste to me

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    8 years ago

    Gypsy sailor is right. Don't throw away your virginity! At least do it with someone you know and care about. And someone who will be tender and gentle. The first time isn't always "bad"... So don't throw it out.

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