Confused about my sexuality as a straight woman

Okay, I need some advice or maybe just an analysis. All I ask is that you are respectful. Thank you. So, I would consider myself a straight female. I like dick, I have dated men since high school, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3.5 years. That aside, while I do consider myself straight, there are just moments when for a second, I feel this burst of emotion, and I am not sure whether it is a "girl crush" as in, (for example, looking at emma stone on the red carpet) oh my gosh I am so jealous of how pretty this girl looks, I wish I WAS her, I wish I had her career and her sense of fashion, or oh my gosh, I would almost consider being with this woman. I think that's fairly normal, I think most straight girls have experienced those admirable, non-sexual crushes in which you aspire to emulate somebody you appreciate. But then other times, like I previously mentioned, I have another emotion, which is sometimes intermingled with the girl crush, but I think it's a real crush. And it doesn't happen like everyday, like I won't see girls walking down the street and be attracted to them. A lot of my college friends have "experimented" with kissing girls, and while I have kissed my share of women, it was mostly because I knew that it would turn on guys who I was attracted to. Sometimes, I am at a club and I occasionally, once in a blue moon, see an out of this world gorgeous girl. There is just something about certain women that I don't think anybody can deny. I mean, girls are generally really pleasant, we smell nice, we have beautiful hair, good features, etc. but some girls are just so beautiful and radiant that everybody enjoys them? And even though I am not usually attracted to women in the same, direct way that I am towards men, I don't know what I would consider this. Also, another type of some sort of specific, but rare attraction I have is sometimes through female singing voices. For ex. when I heard Lana del Rey's voice for the first time, I was immediately attracted to her, because of her voice. The same thing occurred when I heard Sia's Chandelier. Some female voices are just so utterly breathtaking, so raw and sexy and I feel the same attraction, or perhaps a sliver of it, that I feel towards men 97% of the time, towards girls, maybe 3% of the time. I don't know if this makes me "heteroflexible" or if I would automatically be considered bi even though I am almost never attracted towards women. Have any other straight girls experienced a feeling like this? Or can you not consider yourself hetero if you have had even the tiniest attraction towards another girl? Please leave any thoughts you have. Thx again!

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  • Fall_leaves

    I think you're whatever you want to identify as. I consider myself straight but my bestfriend and I have always had a girl crush on eachother, there's always this underlying sexual tension between us. She's the only woman I've ever been attracted to in that way but it's mostly because we're so close.

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    • Reckless

      I feel like I have a similar situation but it might just be me. Have you talked about it with her at all?

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  • handsignals

    Scissor me timbers!

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  • deadtea

    Someone said in a similar IIN question that usually people are not 100% hetero/homo/whatever and bisexuals rather are like, ie. 20% homo - 80% hetero, sometimes 50/50, sometimes 97/3. There are not enough labels to use with so many different people. I for one like to think that it's not sex that I'm attracted to, it's just some people and their traits that I find attractive and if they are male or female is a secondary matter. That being said I like to consider myself pansexual and remember that you are free to consider yourself anything you want. You might be bisexual to some degree but if you feel it's not ok - then consider yourself heterosexual and that's fine too. Just be yourself and don't worry about this stuff as long as it feels natural and you're not hurting anybody.

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  • Avant-Garde

    I looked up Heteroflexibility, It differs in being bi-curious because the person who identifies as such, would have no desire to sexually experiment with the same sex. Do not want to sexually experiment with the same sex?

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  • Jay1

    Your'e not gay or bi to me you just compliment a women on how they look in your head or maybe out loud lot's of womens tell other women's they are beautiful or have a beautiful voice.. If you enjoy the physical features of a women and wanna kiss just because of that maybe your'e confused about what you want.The thing that counts is that you understands what you really want.. Sometimes we might have to set a type or a feature to make sure we don't get off track with what we see our self with long term wise not just for a night or a moment or a year. Ask yourself what you want each day and search for that there're out there too many peoples.. .

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  • Reckless

    I 100% identify with this. I think I've been obsessed with the "3%" for years. I've never acted on any of my feelings. Just thought about it a lot. I am currently engaged to a guy I've dated for 8 years. I feel so guilty and shameful for feeling like this. My feelings have recently intensified because of a dream I had about one of my best friends. I love my fiancé but I find myself fantasizing about being with a girl.

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  • ishipit

    You could be heterosexual with exceptions, or maybe bi with a preference for men. There's no one to put the stamp on you- you don't fill out paperwork for sexuality, nor do you have it approved by anyone else. What you feel like identifying as is what you are. There's also the Kinsey scale which says that most people aren't completely gay, straight or bi. On a scale of 1-8, (1 being heterosexual and 8 being homosexual) most people lie somewhere in the middle. You might be a 2 or 3.

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  • fratom

    If you attended on sex schools it is normal to admire girls because you are with them 5 days a week: doing girlie things etc if you were a sporty girl and played team sports then showering together would make it quite normal too: the question you might have to ask yourself who am I ??? once you begin to give yourself honest answers then you will be sorted: just always believe in yourself and the beutiful child you were birthed out of the womb:

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