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I'm leaving this year to go to university, and I think I'm in love with my best friend. Should I confess to them before I leave that I love them?
Or should I just let it go?
Might as well 'fess up sooner rather than later. If you're not going to see each other for a few months anyway, that mitigates your chance of any losses. If she feels the same way, great. If she doesn't, there is plenty of time for her to reflect about it and realise it's not a big enough deal to damage your friendship before you see each other again.
I wouldn't come straight out with "I love you", though. Be a bit more gentle and restrained than that. "I love you" are three powerful words to say, and you can't un-say them.
Yes, I think you should. I know people are telling you to be careful because it could ruin a friendship, but I think it's worth it. What's the point of being friends with someone if you constantly have to carry that over your shoulders? Do it. If it ends in shit, it's still worth it.
Confess, but it is a huge risk. And it may be a long time until you could see them again.
I'm gonna see her again probably a month after i leave. First time when I'm visiting back here. ( I graduated a year earlier, so she's still in school, so she's gonna be here everytime i visit)
Ah, that's nice. So maybe you don't have to confess now, but wait a bit. (Plus, you can say it before officially leaving to make it dramatic. Lol.)
hahahaha, that's what I was thinking, but what if it ruins everything?
I mean how is it gonna work?
I'm gonna be 4 hours away by plane, flying in once a month if I'm lucky :(
Well, maybe just say to her that you have something important to tell her.
Then tell her that you love her.
If she agrees, then you're lucky!
If she rejects, be glad you're friends, and try to handle it well. If you still want to tell her again, you may want to give it some time. Maybe after a few visits or even when you're done.
I'm not really an expert on this, but I'm having a similar problem except I'm not leaving. Just remember that it can be a bit difficult and stuff. But there are many possibilities. It can cause a risk of losing your friend or it can build up your relationship.
depends if you think you're a realistic chance of the feeling being mutual or whether you feel it would be best left as a friendship.
"Use your intuition, it's all you've got. The keys are in and there's a dozen locks."
I think you should be very careful and tread lightly you don't want to freak your best friend out an end up losing a friend. It's just my humble opinion.