Completely confused and needing advice...

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Okay, here goes...

I'm 21. In my life I've had a 4 year relationship that ended in july last year. Since then I met another boy who I think I love more than anything. I moved to a big city which failed and had to come back home. 1 year ago, I was in exactly the same position I am now (broke with a dead end job). I've studied law for a few years, but in order to continue I need to get back to the big city for University.

I think about my ex constantly despite it being nearly a year on. I hate my job (i totally think i'm above it, but there's no other work out there). My current bf seems completely unreasonable one minute and totally perfect the next. Basically, I'm down every day. The only time i'm happy is when i'm drunk in a club.

Is this normal? And how do I get out of this rutt?

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  • kittylitter101
    11 years ago

    Time heals all wounds.Keep on the lookout for new jobs. About your boyfriend, if he isn't making you happy then tell him. If he doesn't make a change, I don't think it's worth it.

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  • mammamia
    12 years ago

    I am also lost about guys therefore I drink and smoke. So I could get better, even though I know that its the worst way to do it. I mean to forget everything. But few weeks ago I started to try to do something useful for myself. Something like doing exercises when I am upset and believe me even though it has to do with moving my body, I feel much better as physically and emotionally.

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  • Tisgranum
    12 years ago

    Grab hold of the next branch.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    It sounds like you're just at a stage in your life where you're figuring things out, beginning your actual "life". I think you need to look past the break up of your former boyfriend. Realize that it's over, and whats done is done.
    The new guy you're with, you say you think you love more then anything, but he's unreasonable one minute and totally perfect the next? I don't think you're completely over your ex which you probably already know. Maybe you moved a little too fast with your life, and a new relationship. You never took the time to really comfort yourself, and think/look things over. It sounds like you're going through a lot right now, and maybe since your preoccupied with your career path, and current boyfriend, its prevented you from realizing the things that you really want. You know you're above your current job, and clearly you're stuck right now. You're just doing what you need to do to get by.
    I think if you really want it bad enough, work on getting back to the University to study law. Don't get too crazy with the drinking and clubbing. That'll just lead you into a bad habit. You might need to think things over. Step away from the scene, and look at it as a whole. Get rid of the depressing thoughts of what you and your ex once were. Start fresh.

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    • shuggy-chan
      12 years ago

      WoW, i think Ldizzy hit the nail on the head there. i agree u need to take a step back and look at where u are in life, ur young and still have time to get back in school if u set it as ur goal. and u need to get way from the cliche of drowning ur sorrows with alcohol. plz hearing that just made me feel sad, dont fall into that self descructive trap! Be strong

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