Chronic liar

Okay. This story is the TRUTH. I think I have a problem. All my life, I have lied pretty much every day about one thing or another. Some of the lies are very minor, but others are major. I don't know what's wrong with me!! I'm constantly hurting everyone around me - including friends and family. I lost a job from lies too. It's so hard. I'm 28 years old, so I'm no longer a kid. What can I do? Is there such thing as chronic liars?? Am I normal? Probably not.

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  • brothershamass

    I for one do not believe a word you are saying.

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    • DEATHBRINGER1232

      I'm with you on this

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  • Jen118584

    This is a disorder, you should seek treatment.

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  • MountainWolf

    I used to lie a lot as a kid. I remember that feeling when I thought I might get found out, the sweaty palms, the beating heart, the way the lies would just jump out of my mouth before I had a chance to stop them.

    I think it's important for you to understand the route of these lies. It sounds like it's become a habit for you, an addiction. This happens to everyone with something be it phobias, fear of relationships or taking risks. The problem is though, that you are lying because deep down you don't think the truth is enough. In other words you don't think YOU are enough. In order to fix this problem (which definitely can be fixed!) you need to start being honest with yourself first. Begin to love yourself, then you will start to believe that others love you just the way you are, without the lies.

    Good luck!

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  • ambermoon

    Dude I know how you feel I got into the habit when I was a kid I just wanted people to like me to fit in but it did the opposite and drove people away. It continued into my adult years I didn't do it on purpose but it becomes habit. Its even worse when you slip up and get found out which eventually you do and more often than not people KNOW your lying.

    Here is what I did radical as it sounds ...I STOPPED. I made absoloutly sure not matter what the outcome I told the truth I MADE myself tell the truth whether it made me look bad, whether it made me look stupid, whether it made things difficult, wether it hurt someones feelings. I always told the truth after a while I got used to not automatically lying.

    Now I can deferenciate whats a normal white lie (ie to spare someone feelings 'No you don't look fat' or No honey I don't fancy Jacob from Twilight honest) that sort of thing to what is an stupid pointless lie ('Im going nightclubbing on saturday' when really your staying in to watch tv...just admit it thats what you want to be doing no point lying about it and someone will find out you didn't go anyway) or a make yourself seem better lie (I paid £50 for those shoes when really you paid £25 ..whats the point of lying about the price of something to make yourself seem like you have more money who cares anyway) or just a big fat lie (I am going bare back horse riding when your just NOT).

    Now I would say Im fairly normal.

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  • Yeah I agree with chunk - liars get caught out & earn a lot of disrespect & disdain. Why? Because it is a shitty thing to do to other people. It holds them in contempt. And it says you are totally untrustworthy.

    Stop it & get help doing so if you need to.

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  • chunkybongo

    My dad is 71 and he is the coolest dude on earth. I used to think he was the most awesome person on the planet; but then I noticed that he was a chronic liar. He lied about petty things. He just lied; he'd lie to get out of having to keep talking on the phone. He'd lie if he didn't want to talk about what he was really doing after he hung up. He'd say dinner was ready, or somebody just came in the door. He was a poor liar; very transparent. Today, despite all of my dad's awesome qualities and amazing unique personality, I have almost no respect for him as a human being at all. How can you respect someone who doesn't have the common decency to tell you why he's hanging up the phone? It's pathetic, and he's a pathetic person in my eyes...I can't help but feel this way. So if I were you I would do all I can to stop being a petty liar. It makes you look like a pussy, a wimp; a person with no self-respect; a coward. Do it for your own good, and the sooner the better.

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    • BoredGuy

      i like him. Lying so you don't have to explain shit to ppl is so awesome.

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  • kanachan

    You could try stopping yourself you know. It would be a good start by writing your lies down and making a plan to correcting them. Apologize to people. And then seek treatment. I know it's something that could never be done overnight, and it's something that is very very hard to do. But if you are willing, then you can be cured. I might not completely understand you but I know someone who's like you so I partially understand. Seems like she can't live not telling lies for a day but then I understood one day that it was a disorder. I'm sure you've got a disorder too. You can find a way to correct your ways if you're truly willing.

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  • TheGuruOfTheSauce

    You must have a boring life or an addiction of some sort.only reason people constantly lie are those reasons

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