Cheating online is okay?

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The basic gist is that my boyfriend has told me that I can cheat online. He told me I can only cheat sexually.
(Sexting/cyber/cam to cam, etc)
I can't say, "I love yous" to anyone else nor form other relationships. Even so, it's kind of disturbing.
We've been together for 4 years now, so this was a shock.

If my boyfriend was a NORMAL person, I would've immediately question his loyalty. However, my boyfriend is autistic - if that matters. I've never seen him jealous before and he doesn't display many emotions. I know for a fact that he would never cheat on me, though. But, is this normal? Even for an autistic person?

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  • stopandthink
    9 years ago

    It's hard for me to imagine a loving, committed person allow his partner to cheat.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I don't doubt his loyalty, but I do feel like he has problems.
      He spoils me a lot and his words to me were, "I want you to be happy."

      Basically, I feel like he's a doormat and that worries me.

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    • Arm0se
      9 years ago

      Agreed. I know I would be devastated if I found dirty things about my partner, even online :c

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    I don't think it's normal, even for an autistic person. This is unacceptable behaviour in anyone. You should reevaluate your relationship. Good luck.

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  • Aliceee93
    9 years ago

    No cheating is acceptable.

    Is he at it with someone else?"/

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Nah, he's not cheating. If he was a normal person then I would think that, but he's not normal. His libido is VERY low, he's autistic, and he initially had no intentions of getting into a relationship until we met.

      Basic gist - due to his autism and other traits, his way of thinking and his lack of emotions are just way too complex for me to understand.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    If he says it's OK then what are you worried about? If you think he won't chat on you though, I wouldn't count on it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I guess there are as many ways of having a relationship as there are couples in the world, but I think a general good rule of thumb is that you shouldn't do anything you wouldn't want your partner to do to you. For what it's worth, I don't think it's a good idea to encourage ANY type of sexual interactions outside of the relationship, because I just can't see that leading to anything good if you see yourself with this guy long term in a serious relationship. That's just me.

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  • ilovetoiletrolls
    9 years ago

    It's hard to say considering he's autistic. If he wasn't, I would say it means he does it himself but maybe it's just that he doesn't understand what cheating really is.

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  • Spankz
    9 years ago

    It is strange. What about you? Do you have the same views? If not, did you make sure to communicate this?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Oh, I'm pretty greedy. I don't want him doing stuff like that.
      However, it's pretty clear that he has no interest in cheating on me.

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      • Spankz
        9 years ago

        Well, at least you have nothing to worry about. It is strange that he would put forward these notions, but each his own, right? As long as he isn't doing anything to harm the relationship and you're still comfortable with him then everything seems alright :)

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  • Spankz
    9 years ago

    I don't think it is normal, as most people in committed relationships view online relations as cheating. However, there are some people that think that as long as there isn't any physical or emotional ties to another person, then it isn't really cheating.

    I'm curious, have you asked him what provoked this?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      It was just a typical conversation.
      I asked him what actions would make him want a divorce. His answers were if I injured him on purpose or if I destroyed something of sentimental value.

      I was curious why cheating wasn't there, so I just got curious and asked him some stuff. That lead me to finding out his views on online cheating, which is a bit strange.

      I can't cheat in real life, but online seems to be okay. I find that strange.

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