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For valentines my boyfriend got flowers for his "friend" and I would like to hear from some of the men out there is it normal to get flowers for another woman on valentines if she is only a friend? Women can reply if they want but I have already asked my girlfriends and they all have the same answer I need a male's perspective.
When my husband and I were dating, we hung out with a group of friends and we were a very tight knit group. One Valentine's day, he bought me a bouquet of roses and gave individual roses to our chick friends. At first I thought it was odd and I wondered why he would do such a thing. I asked him the reason and he said that since he was getting me flowers he thought it would be nice to get them for our friends too. The point is he was just being a nice guy by remembering our friends, and of course, I was the one who got the biggest gift of all...him. If he didn't want to be with me he wouldn't be. Since then, some of my male friends give me a rose or a flower on holidays because they know that I like them, my husband does not get jealous or irate about it...he knows that I belong to him. Don't worry too deeply about such a trivial thing. If he didn't want to be with you he wouldn't. It is normal to be curious about the situation though. Some things can look odd at first, especially if the relationship is new. Just think of it as him being a nice guy until he gives you a real reason to worry (which hopefully will never happen).
~Peace~
This sounds normal to me, I give valentines not only to my lover but my friends as well. (I'm a girl though) I can see why it would make you nervous, it could be what your thinking, but it's definately not flat out proof. You'd need to dig more to be sure ;P
You got something? If was better or more expensive than flowers is ok. If was nothing or cheaper that those flowers... That would be an issue.
I'm female but that's not normal unless it's someone he's been friends w/maybe since childhood. Ask him how he'd like it if the tables were turned & u bought a gift for another man "friend".
it depends on the fact that if he gave YOU something ...
If he didn't than you know you're right...
i wouldnt say that he is cheating, he may just be a really good-hearted person and friend. that is actually a good virtue in a male; if he is to be concerned for the feelings of his friends, then just think of the care and attentiveness he will provide for you :) the only thing that i would be worried about is if he did not tell you about him getting her the flowers. if he told you, then i wouldnt worry.
Definitely not normal. It might be hard to accept but he is a WASTE of time. Move on.
This is not normal. I wouldn't have accepted this behavior. This is fine for children in school but not over 15 or so. In grade school everyone gives a valentine's card to everyone else. But in high school Valentine Day gifts become individualized. If he is an adult, I would see this as a very mild form of cheating.
I wouldn't think so. That's probably my views talking. I always have this idea that if you're at that stage you have a "duty" to your other and should give it your all.
if he told you about it, then he probably isn't doing anything with her or he would have been secretive about it. Why raise your suspicions if he really was cheating on you?
If this girl is a close friend of his, then it's completely acceptable. Lots of guys have close female friends that they love like a sister and want to do nice things for her, but it's totally different than getting flowers for someone you love in an intimate way.
female here, so I don't know if it matters, but depending on the situation it could be that this friend is like a sister or just could use a pick me up. I had a guy friend get me something for valentines day when I was going through a rough time, and we were like a brother and sister, it was completely platonic, and so obvious to us that it was completely platonic that we didn't really think much about it being bad. There is always the possibility that its not innocent, but i can't tell you that. I wasn't there. You should have received something too, because you are his number one girl, after all. If not, then I would talk about it with him. Just observe and judge yourself. If you're getting a weird feeling about it, then maybe it's women's intuition and you are right to think it's not fair.
Did he get you any? If he only got them for his "Friend" then he is obviously a complete twat
Hiya- where i live i think it would be considered pretty unacceptable for your partner to get flowers for some other chick unless its his mum!! and i just reread the message- they were for Valentines day for goodness sake...isn't that about giving flowers to the one you love??
it depends how long he has been friends with her. if youve never noticed anything way to flirty or touchy then i think its fine. but otherwise you should look into it. for one does he let you hangout with him and her? or he cant hangout with you both at the same time, cause then that sounds like something is being hidden and if you all dont hangout cause she hates you, then she likes him otherwise if they were just friends she would learn to like you under most circustances.
Thats hot! seriously I love that type of interaction its so cute I want to pinch your cheeks. yes those cheeks LOL
Yes we are engaged, living together, etc. and no I am not a insecure, control-freak. I was only asking thanks
You don't say what "boyfriend" means to you. Are you engaged, etc?
Otherwise, it seems perfectly normal and approprate to me, and it doesn't make sense that you should be bothered by it.
Are you some sort of insecure, control-freak or what? What kind of happiness do you think that sort of attitude will bring you?