Casual sex is great... change my mind

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I want to hear what people have against casual sex. I think its great and needs to be more common and accepted. There is a stigma to it for no damn reason and people look down on me just for having my share. Why do people think casual sex is bad? I have no fucking clue! There is obviosly some risk for std's or an unplanned pregnancy, but other things have risk to and people should be able to take these risks without being looked down upon. So if you think casual sex is bad, tell me why. And if you think casual sex is great, tell me why you think other people think it is bad.

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Protagoras

4 years ago

I don’t think it should be stigmatized. But I do feel like casual sex is generally mediocre. You’re with someone you just met and you don’t know what “buttons to push” to turn each other on because it’s unfamiliar territory. Usually just clunky and awkward.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  That is fair enough as your opinion. Im not saying everyone should love casual, just that people should stop looking down on people who enjoy and rely on it.
  
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Columbusbiguy

4 years ago

Why should we change your mind? You seem to be fully rooted in your opinion, and from a few of your replies, you want to rebut the arguments made. Go enjoy your lifestyle and dont worry about what others think.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Well thanks sir. I wanted to hear people's thoughts and I also like to debate. Nothing anybody could say would change my lifestyle any rate.
  
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  - Columbusbiguy
    
    4 years ago
    
    Enjoy it while you can.
    
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SwickDinging

4 years ago

I don't judge others for having casual sex, it's a personal decision and people can do what they like as long as everyone is a consenting adult. And God knows I put it about a fair bit when I was younger. And I have no regrets about that. But I was extremely careful with contraception and was quite choosey about who I slept with.

My issue though is the baby making potential. Don't underestimate this. Every single time you have sex, no matter how careful you are, you could make a baby. I think a lot of problems in our society are traced back to people accidentally making babies - it means people end up having to have abortions, which can be psychologically traumatic, expensive and carry health risks (not to mention you are extinguishing a life). It also causes a huge rift between the sexes over how to proceed equally - there is no equal course of action that gives both parents any fair shot at the choice over what happens to their baby, it is always going to be an unequal setting no matter how the law is laid out because the pregnancy is happening inside the mother's body. Just look at the raging pro life/ pro choice debate - There's a lot of anger and upset on both sides from people who passionately believe that they are right.

The alternative to abortion is that two people who don't know each other have a baby. Statistically speaking two people who don't know each other having a baby is terrible for society. The ideal environment for a child to be raised in is one where the parents have known each other for a long time, live together in financial security and have actually made a conscious decision to raise a child. This situation used to be the norm, but due to the rise of causal sex it has become more of a rarity. This is bad news for society as a whole. Regardless of your own personal beliefs about childrearing you cannot deny that how the majority are raising their children is of huge importance for the future of our society.

I also agree with others that casual sex is a bit shit/pointless. When I was young I told myself it was great fun, but as I got older I realised it was actually quite empty and a little bit pathetic. You don't need to be having lots of meaningless sex all the time. It's so much more satisfying to have sex with someone you actually have a real connection with. That kind of sex is mind blowing and no amount of encounters with strangers can come close. And if you can't have the good stuff then why bother at all? It's not like there are any other benefits to sex and it carries a lot of risks.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  I most certainly see your point about the risks of an unplanned pregnancy. But like I said in the post, people should be able to take those risks for the pleasure and good times they can have. I also can't stand people like you saying casual sex is pointless, like really? Sex feels fucking awesome and that is almost always worth the risk you run. Other things people do just for enjoyment have risks and yet people do those! And comlared to other things, sex definetly brings more pleasure. You think it is pointless because it is just for pleasure, but those are not the same thing! Pleasure is the point! It sounds to me like sex for you is about the personal connection more than the pleasure and that is fine but please understand that that is certainly not everyone. So don't say things like "casual sex is a bit shit/pointless" just because it seems that way to you.
  
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  - SwickDinging
    
    4 years ago
    
    No, the point I was making, amongst others, is that it is less pleasurable with a stranger. Strangers don't have any prior experience of you and your hot buttons. Someone who has had sex with you many times before can read your body like braille and take you to fucking heaven and back again. And yes, a deeper connection will intensify this pleasure even further. Perhaps your experience is different to mine, and that's ok, but you did ask for people's opinions so I gave mine.
    
    And who are "people like me"? I would like to meet these people. Perhaps we could have a tea party.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      Its no doubt that having expirienced sex with someone before means they can push your 'buttons' better, and that helps. But to me it seems like that benefit is offset by the fact that having sex with someone new can bring a type of novelty that is enjoyable. If you have sex with many diffetent types, you expirience more. Some people are better at oral than others or make more arousong sounds, some people love anal and some don't, some people love kinky shit some don't, and some are just attractive in different ways that can help turn you on more. For people who love multiple aspects of sex, having multiple partners and more casual sex can allow you opportunities to have a different expirience each time.
      
      And when I say people like you, I mean some people in my life who look down on me for having casual sex, and also some other hooligans in the comment section.
      
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      - SwickDinging
        
        4 years ago
        
        I don't know why I've been lumped in with people who look down on you - please refer to the opening line of my initial comment. In my experience people are more likely to look down on those who don't engage in casual sex because our society encourages casual sex so much. So I'm surprised to hear you feel that so many people are looking down on you for it.
        
        I really don't care whether or not you engage in casual sex. It was only being talked about because you specifically asked. I can see you've taken offence to a lot of the comments here. I'm really not sure what you want?
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        4 years ago
        
        You said earlier that sex is less pleasurble with strangers, and I disagree with that. It CAN be, and for SOME people it may always be, but stating it like that with a blanket statment is just not fair. Sex can definetly be better with a stranger, for reasons I eluded to in my earlier reply.
        
        I feel like people personally don't like it, but they are short sighted and say that it is dumb pointless or empty. I say people should have casual sex more often and not judge people for doing so regularly. Most people in the comments don't sound like they agree, even though they are not very direct.
        
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    4 years ago
    
    You are SO on point! Pleasure is the point! As for risks, most things we do involve risks. I’m going to have as much casual sex as I can, as often as I can, with as many as I can (male AND female)! No shame and no regrets!
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      Good for you! I'm glad I have some full on support here! People say don't have casual sex because you might get an std, but the chances are not much different that you will get hurt playing a sport or get in a wreck driving to work or something! Why do people feel guilty about doing something just for pleasure? It continues to baffle me.
      
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[Old Memory]

4 years ago

I don't think it's bad but personally I find it very unfulfilling and meaningless. Kind of immature. It's this huge effort and amount of time put in to trying to make it happen for what is essentially 10-15 minutes of pleasure. Half the time it's disappointing. There's also the worrying after because you may have picked up an STD and you won't know until you go get checked again. It's just not worth it in my opinion. I think as you get older you mature and realise that you actually want more than just a quick fix. If I cannot find something more I'd sooner go without these days. There's nothing better sexually than being with someone who actually really cares about you and isn't just in it for themselves which is what casual sex is all about. Casual sex is basically just using another person as a masturbation device.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  I don't like you saying its immature. What if people just want sex without the relationship strings attached? Also, saying its used as a masturbation device is just wrong, look up masterbation.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    4 years ago
    
    Ok so you don't like my opinion. Such is life. You don't get to like everything people say. If people want sex without strings they can go ahead and fuck till they're blue in the face for all I care. Nobody is stopping them. This is just my personal view. Dude I'm no innocent. I've played the field big time but what im saying is that as you get older ie more mature you realise that you just don't want that kind of empty sex anymore. It's just how it is. You want connection.
    I'm well aware of what masturbation is without looking it up thanks. It can be done with a device. Casual sex to me is not much different. The two people don't care about each other at all usually. They each just want to get off and they each just use the other to reach that end.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      I have heard it before that people stop liking casual sex after a while, and it makes sense. But I think more people stop because they have kind of gotten their fill, more so than they just realizing "wow, this is immature" and stopping because of that. I know it is not everyone's cup of tea, but still people seem to look down on people who choose this different style of sex life. And casual sex doesn't always mean you have no feelings for someone, although that certainly happens.
      
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Carfentanil

4 years ago

There's nothing wrong with consensual casual sex. It can be very exhilarating indeed. But It's kind of like cocaine - it's fun, but thats it. It doesn't leave you with any deeper feeling other than an exhilarating rush. Eventually I'm going to want something deeper, sex with a genuine connection. That to me is a lot more meaningful than a first name hookup with someone I've known for a week or less

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Well thank you for stating it as a personal opinion, unlike some people on here. A lot if people do seem to like that deeper connection more, and thats fine, but that is not me. And I know i'm not the only guy out there. When I say it great, I mean it should not be judged and people should try it more who never have, I never said everyone has to prefer it iver serious relationships.
  
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mauzi

4 years ago

Nothing wrong with it, if you have a high enough sex drive then it's for you. Some prefer love over sex though - attracted by personality more than body, and prefer the emotional connection to go along with sex.

I never noticed any stigma against casual sex, usually the opposite - it's glorified as you're supposed to have as much sex as you can, or else you're seen as a loser (if male) or a prude (if female).

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Great responss! Casual sex is great for those with higher sex drives like myself. I would disagree however, that there is no stigma against it. I have had a surprising amount of shade cast on me for it. And other people in the comments agree there is a stigma to it. Do you really think there is no stigma or have you just not really noticed?
  
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  - mauzi
    
    4 years ago
    
    I guess casual sex isn’t brought up a lot, but Ive definitely heard guys bragging about how much they have sex, especially in the form of hook ups. It’s seen as an accomplishment. Also on tv shows and movies if a guy hasn’t had sex in even a couple months, he is implied to be a weirdo. Sometimes it applies for women too, but personally I think its less risk for guys and thus more enjoyable.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      Yeah, it seems like in some circles and niches of society, casual sex is well accepted. But there are still plenty of areas where people stigmatize it. People will tell me "don't you have something better to do?" or "That is inmoral" and shit like that. It just makes me pissed that people even care about my sex life at all. But I'm sure it is not seen that way everywhere you go.
      
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