Care for his mother more than me?

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I seriously have a problem with my husbands mother sometimes. She puts my husband in positons that her husband needs to do. Like example: She tells him to make phone calls for her cause she doesnt want to speak to the person and the issue at hand. And other things like if she has a cold and needs to go to the hospital instead of her husband taking her she asks mine! This kind of stuff happens all the time. I dont know if i am just jelous or if he should treat me like his wife and tell his mom to act normal. I keep getting thoughts that she is attracted to him. This one time we were sitting on the couch and he had his hand on his you know what iching or adjusting his pants and i look at him and say what are you doing? because it was in front of people and his mom says he is playing with himself when i confronted him about that weird comment he said thats how she jokes. He doesnt seem to mind about all this crap but it makes me want to take him and go thousands of miles away. Any advice?

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  • ruralfrights
    14 years ago

    He HAS to be as sick as she is.

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  • Anywho
    14 years ago

    it is possible her son is smarter than her husband which is why she asks him to make the calls, it is also possible she just doesn't get along with her own husband and who wants to spend time in a car then a hospital with someone who annoys you, it is PROBABLE that she was kidding when she said he was playing with himself - do you have a logical reason why he CANT make the call or the drive or are you just being irrational and not wanting to share him? I'm playing a little bit of devil's advocate here. I was in a similar situation.... the relationship ended for other reasons but I never shook the feeling that his mother was jealous of me... in a romantic way.

    If her requests are interferring with things like.... time you already planned with him and she calls - just intercept - say "sorry, we got plans, ask yer own man"

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    • brunettebeauty21
      14 years ago

      well, Anywho her son being smarter than her husband isnt my problem. He is my husband and maybe she should of thought about that before she married her it doesnt give her the entitlement to borrow mine. If she cant stand hers thats her damn problem dont make it mine and my husbands. You know i dont mind helping people and my husband doesnt either but to the point of making phone calls? for someone okay lets put our big girl panties on there things we all have to do we dont like we cant just put off on someone else that is just apart of being grown up. And weather kidding or not there are some things you dont joke about that are just weird to say especially when he is married in front of his wife. And my "LOGICAL" reason is she is a big girl and she can do it. Its not my husbands job and that is crossing boundaries with me. Thanks for the comment and i have said that when she calls and it works out to where she doesnt throw a fit.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Go thousands of miles away!

    Well, if you can't do that you might shift the problem a bit more toward your husband: he doesn't listen to how you feel. And you are being really honest, admitting you could be a bit jealous, but also saying clearly that you are tired of being number 2 in his life.

    There is nothing wrong with a bond between mother & son. But as you have described, this one goes beyond normal boundaries.

    So tell it like it is: he can't put you in the number 2 position, nor can his mom. You are his wife, you are number 1, tell exactly what needs to change, and if it doesn't you are heading for marriage counseling as the next step.

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    • brunettebeauty21
      14 years ago

      Thank you i apprecaite that.

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  • Clayman88
    14 years ago

    Some people are like that. She was just joking. My aunt is like that. As for the having him do things for her thing. It may just be her husband doesn't do those things so her son started doing them instead. There just little things that should be ignored till he moves out. Once he is out in the world she needs to learn she can't call him for every little thing and she will have to make her husband get off his lazy ass and start helping her. Then once that's done he should start doing those things for you.

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    • brunettebeauty21
      14 years ago

      I never said we live with them. And my point was he is my husband. She has one and she needs to make him do it not mine that is a boundarie you just dont cross he is married now so basically she needs to back off. But i apprecaite your thoughts.

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