Cannot think of anything to say

Like the title says. It doesn't matter whether i talk to someone new or old, i find it extremely difficult sometimes to come up with a response or a comeback. Most of the time, it isn't anything more than small talk.I just can't think of anything interesting to say. I find myself just nodding and laughing it off like a total idiot.

It seems to me the only decent conversation i have with people is when it involves me. My problem. My concern. My beliefs.

is that normal? can i change?

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Based on 67 votes (53 yes)
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  • joybird

    First, stop talking about yourself!!! Boring!

    All you have to do with people is keep asking questions about them. As you know from experience (you), people like to talk about themselves. I talked to one fella for 8 years and a few weeks ago he stopped me as I went to walk past and asked me my surname and where I lived. He'd eventually realised I knew everything about him and he knew absolutely nothing about me, even though we are great social pals and can sit all night in each other's company :O)

    People can talk for years about themselves if you seem interested, and they love you for being interested / concerned about their problems. Ask me to repeat any of their problems and I honestly couldn't recall any ;o)

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  • Chuddz

    I know what you're thinking... Oh fuck it i've started the best quote of all time I might aswell finish. Did I fire 6 shots or only 5, to tell you the truth in all this excitement I've lost count myself. But seeing as though this is a .44 Magnum, the most powerful handgun in the world, I guess you have to ask yourself the question, do I feel lucky? Well do ya punk?!
    Say that when anyone asks you anything that should do the trick :)

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  • manyhandedmusician

    Yay, I'm not the only one....

    It's really frustrating. :/

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  • dudesama

    Practice talking with people online. Apps like this are excellent if you want to answer and comment on other people's questions. It helps you have a broader view of people and their concerns, and you'll be a better conversationalist in the long run.

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  • hugabug

    I'm the same way, and the only way to help it is to just go out and talk to people, you kinda just have to force yourself to talk to people. Get out and listen to peoples conversations and learn about what people talk about so you can have a variety of topics to discuss. Idk if that helps or not but I hope so(:

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  • qtoryz

    I'm just like that. Sometimes I feel retarded for not being able to communicate well. I don't think it's normal for me but it is good to know I'm not alone. However I work in a place where I'm forced to chat with total strangers who are usually drunk. This actually helps. Practice makes perfect I guess. And who cares if I suck at it cause they're drunk.

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  • kifu

    I have it the same, more or less. It's ok when in small group of friends. But when alone with someone... it becomes uncomfortably quiet. I try to think of something that two of us might talk about and I'm not always successful. I envy others, who seem to have good time together without even trying.
    I blamed my shyness, I blamed my lack of experience with people due my shyness, I blamed my supposed dullnes due my dull life to not find anything interesting to say, but... I don't know now what is the real reason. Maybe small talk is just not for me, or You.

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  • totally like me..

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  • BrightEyes

    Find someone who shares your problems, concerns or beliefs and then you will be talking about something that involves the two of you.

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    • animalcracker

      I kinda have the same "problem" tho its not with everybody. But i do know that i CANNOT keep a long interesting conversation with a girl. GL BUD.

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