Cannot keep a boyfriend? iin?

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I've had about 8 relationships now, and I'm 25. Some of them lasted a few months, 2 lasted for a year or more. My longest relationship was 3 years.

But now it seems like every guy who wants to be in a relationship with me eventually wants out. My current boyfriend just now told me he had dinner with a girl he thinks he's still in love with... meanwhile he's been talking about marriage with me for the past few months. I'm not sure what's going on anymore.

At first I thought, maybe I'm just not attractive enough... But I don't think that's the case. This boyfriend and my last boyfriend were always saying that I was the most attractive girl they've dated (yep, flattery) and then they end up coming out eventually with something like they don't love me or they have someone else.

I'm not bossy, I'm really agreeable and talkative, and I'm kind of more adventurous than most guys I know. Its one of the things they tended to like before not wanting to be in a relationship anymore.

Now my friends are all getting married and they're really in love, and yet every guy I meet turns out to be almost the same. Is this normal? If not, wtf's wrong with me? I want to be able to hold a relationship.

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  • ashelizax
    12 years ago

    I'm in a pretty similar situation myself, so you're totally not alone with this.

    I've dated 9 guys in the past year, and i'm 24. I don't think there's anything abnormal about it.. it's just not a common situation.

    I doubt there's anything "wrong" with you. Obviously none of us are perfect, myself included; I think alot of it is just bad luck. It doesn't mean you suck in bed, or have poor self-esteem, or anything else horrendous like that. And it's hard to accept that when you're surrounded by friends getting married and having babies.

    After soul searching and consulting with tons and tons of friends, one of my guy friends of whom I've known for years finally gave me some advice that made sense to me. He said guys view me as the "wife material" and I'm unfortunately choosing men who aren't ready for that type of girl in their life yet. I don't push for committment, and I certainly don't TRY to be "wife material".. it's just me, and it's the aura I give off. I'd be willing to bet it's the same thing for you.

    In the meantime, just remember to be picky with who you date.. turn them down if you don't see any potential in them. And whatever you do, do NOT lower your standards just so you can have a boyfriend! Eventually the right one will come along for both of us. Chin up and good luck. :-)

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  • derker
    12 years ago

    You say you're not bossy and are agreeable. But you may just THINK you are. And in reality you really are bossy and standoffish, and think you're perfectly fine, which makes it 10 times worse.
    But then again I could be wrong.
    Just saying, you may want to double check that you're not a bitch.

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  • carterjm4
    12 years ago

    Some guys are just dicks. Its not your fault, life throws a lot of curve balls. It happens to a lot of people even though they won't admit to it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I've been going through the same thing, and I'm not sure what the deal is.

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  • BoredGuy
    12 years ago

    face it! you suck at sex

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  • pixie_dust
    12 years ago

    im going to go out on a limb and say it more than likely has to do with your self confidence or self.esteem.

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago

    Maybe you're too easy. Guys like a challenge

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  • altrk
    11 years ago

    The_Hindu, you're a racist plain and simple. Why don't you go blow something up to make yourself feel better about how small your ***** penis is?

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  • tego
    12 years ago

    i only keep boys tat r good on bed, i dont fall in love bf sex, u fuck me bf i no if i can love u. no sex no love.

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  • BfingIToucher
    12 years ago

    I actually am wondering if you aren't being picky enough. Sounds crazy, but you are over thinking this so much I think you might be a bit desperate and giving it a shot with just anyone who shows interest. Were YOU madly in love with these 8 guys, or were you just hoping they'd be madly in love with you? I think you are probably a great person who will find the right guy. Timing is everything and you can't force it. I say take a break from romance and do things you really enjoy solo. You're still young! :)

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