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When a woman mistreated an ugly guy for being ugly, what are some things he can say to her to get her to see past his looks and to recognize the good inner qualities? What can the ugly guy say to her to convince her to stop judging him by his looks?
Most people who think they're mistreated because of their ugly appearance are also ugly on the inside. Is that you? Are you giving off negative vibes that make people around you uncomfortable? Focus on that. Be a good person and you'll get a much better reaction out of other people, but the thing is that includes being a good person even to those who don't react to you the way that you want. See, the thing is if you're always on edge, ready to try to "convince" a complete stranger to change who they are, that's a negative energy that other people are going to pick up on.
You cant really convince anyone whether they're male or female, ugly or beautiful, fat or skinny, rich or poor, or whatever. The best course of action is to leave the person who is treating you poorly, and move on with your life. You cannot make other people change, nor should you try! Don't give in to the codependent crazies!
I guess you're right, you can't convince a shallow person to look past appearance just by asking them to. To be honest, I've already tried that and she just did not care what I was saying, her mind seemed to be so made up to not want to be nice to someone ugly.
By the way, you don't establish whether you're ugly or not. This depends on the woman, since she is perceiving you as ugly or handsome. Every woman is different, and one woman can find you ugly, while another one can find you handsome. And only the woman that is interested in you should matter to you. If she isn't, her opinion on this should become irrelevant to you.
Was this someone you asked out that turned you down? People can turn down anyone who asks them out for all sorts of reasons including, but not limited to reasons of physical appearance.
It might be really difficult for you to do, but your best bet now is just to be cordial, or at least civil, but otherwise leave this person alone. We are all entitled to our opinions. You say this person thinks your ugly, and you obviously think she's shallow so it's tit for tat, this for that. In a certain way ya'll are even now.
If you continue to try to as you say, "convince", this person then that will be interpreted as a kind of harassment, and hopefully you don't want to be seen that way. Just leave this person alone!
This was not someone I was asking out, it was a sacker helping me in a grocery store. I'll tell you why she made it obvious she thought I was hideous looking. When I said "hi, how are you today?" to her, she started answering me just fine and with a smile until she looked up and saw me. As soon as she saw my face, her friendly response and smile stopped suddenly cold before she was even done responding. Then when I said to her "have a nice day", she did not answer. I thought maybe she didn't hear me so I said it again, and she abruptly says without looking at me "yeh!". And then I knew she heard me say it the first time. Doesn't that whole deal combined from her make it obvious that she found me absolutely hideous? And with her starting to talk to me normal friendly until the second she looked at me then stopping cold and refusing to respond to me again? She might as well told me to my face "you are hideously ugly!". Do you think I should have tried to ask her not to be so shallow? She wouldn't have listened if I asked that, would she?
If someone wants to act stupid with you like that, don't worry about it, they're not worth it. Unless you're like model material, there's always gonna be some people who find you ugly and some people who don't. Try to learn to look at the glass as half full instead of half empty and focus on the ones who don't, forget about the ones who do.
Oh, Lord have mercy, a grocery sacker person is pretty much just a child so I wouldn't give it a second thought. No, I dont think that you should have asked her not to be so shallow, because then you would just make yourself look like a neurotic kook. Just try not to think of it. I know it's not easy, but please try tto put this out of your mind.
You can't say anything to convince them, they're gonna be shallow no matter what you say. It's not worth your or her time to try convincing her to see past looks cause she won't. Stop worrying about it and learn to love yourself.
If women are shallow, then how cum you can get your dick all the way inside of them?
(I made this comment because my level of care for what I post on this website has decayed.)
How about: nothing is as ugly as a person who judges others based on looks. Now THATS ugly. Just to state the obvious. Because that IS truly ugly. I’d say that and own it. Because I really don’t like shallow people anyway. So, to point out the obvious ugliness would just be an observation of fact. I see nothing wrong with stating facts.
You can't talk a person into not judging people by appearances. Some shallow people are so dim that they remain shallow their entire lives. Others eventually learn through hard experience that some pretty people are obnoxious, self-obsessed shits, while some physically unattractive people are wonderful human beings.
Really, there's nothing you can do to win this woman over, since she hasn't yet learned that lesson. The best you can do is treat her with as much respect as you can - while still maintaining your own self-respect - and let her get on with her life. The only consolation for you is that the odds are good that, sooner or later, she's going to be treated like crap by some gorgeous guy and she may reconsider her views.
You might also ask yourself why you want to get closer to someone who's so obviously superficial and stupid.
You don't have to convince her. You will live a miserable life knowing that you have to convince her to stay with you. I wouldn't try to convince any woman of being with me when she doesn't want that. She had a reason and she will always have this reason not to be with you.