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I'm a girl and obviously a virgin. I always got off with just rubbing my clit through my panties but i was wondering if i could finger myself in the pussy without having to lose my virginity. is it possible?
Virginity is a myth. It's something men invented to control and commodify women's bodies. The concept didn't exist in ancient cultures, it's a pretty new phenomenon. That said, fingering yourself probably won't break your hymen. Lots of girls use tampons before they've ever had sex and the hymen doesn't break. And in a practical sense, it doesn't matter if it does. My cousin broke hers in some kind of tricycle accident when we were kids and she's gone on to lead a very normal life. It's just a piece of skin leftover from when your vagina developed. Having it or not having it doesn't say anything about you or your worth as a person.
Crustypants is right. It's really nothing to consider. Only in like old world marriages and some tribal marriage does it even matter if it's in tact at all. I mean...unless you're planning on marrying someone that might care about it. The concept of virginity is not being with another personal sexually. So if you break it yourself technically you are still a virgin anyway because it was just done by you. I have known several girls over the years, mostly back when I was in college that claimed virginity but also had their own sex toys. There is ZERO percent chance they were still "intact" but they had never done anything with a guy...well...they didn't have vaginal sex with a guy though one of them was very well known for her oral and hand job skills.
Ok...all that being said - Yes, you can break it with your finger. If your fingers are long enough then you can very much do that. So if you're just wanting purely medically related advice:
Yes, penetration of the vagina can result in the hymen being broken if enough forceful contact is applied.
"If your fingers are long enough..."
Eh?
The hymen is at the entrance of the vagina. If a girl can wipe her own butt, she can definitely reach her hymen.
Well, like most things not all people are the same. Some hymen tissue starts very shallow, 1-2 cm, others farther in, or at least what we refer to as the "hymen". Also ALL have openings in them and some you can put a finger in and not do any damage because they are not solid.
It was poor word to use, I should have said large enough. Hymen tissue lines the walls of the vaginal opening and what we refer to as "breaking" the hymen is stretching it and tearing it open to accommodate a larger object. Depending on how the hymen forms in an individual determines if a finger will "break" it(stretch it out enough to cause any tearing). The idea of length comes in the form of that the opening typically is a bit wider at the entry and then narrows and widens...The narrowest point varies but is usually a few centimeters inside.
"Also ALL have openings in them and some you can put a finger in and not do any damage because they are not solid."
https://www.everydayhealth.com/imperforate-hymen/guide/
So...you think pointing out a random congenital medical condition is anything to be proud about? It's not the normal condition, that might mean something to me if all women were born that way, but they aren't. Women are meant to be born with a hole coming out of their vagina to allow blood flow from their menstrual cycles. Jesus fuck give it a rest and stop trying to mansplain your dumbass into relevance.
absolutely the hymen is both an opening and stretchy , getting a finger past is easy without any tearing or blood . this one 27 year old at work was calling guys needle dicks that could not break hers, it felt like a fucking rubber band around my dick shaft not a bad thing but a hider to going full bore, only lasted for a few sessions and it was gone with blood, i guess her dad had a tiny dick.
As others have said, the whole concept of the intact hymen being an indicator of virginity is antiquated.
Hymens often stretch, rather than tear, and this can be caused by all sorts of non-sexual activities. Hymens also vary widely in terms of size and thickness. Some girls are born with hymens that completely obstruct the vagina (which causes problems when they start to menstruate). Some girls are born with only a very thin web of skin which is barely visible.
It seems to me that the only useful definition of virginity is that one hasn't experienced penetrative sex involving another person. Therefore, it's simply impossible to lose your virginity to yourself.
In fact, I'd suggest that you might benefit from engaging in gentle penetrative masturbation, since this would probably make your first sex with a guy more comfortable and relaxed. Unless he's a total asshole, he's not going to want to get down there with a penlight and do an examination if you tell him it's your first time.
I think it's good you're learning how to give yourself sexual pleasure, but your question suggests you could benefit from learning more about sexuality. Perhaps you'd find the Scarleteen website helpful.
I'm not going to comment on virginity because you didn't ask. (Ehem above posters)
Yes, you can break your hymen if you go far enough. If your shooting for the G spot or A spot you have to. But it's no big deal. I would even suggest it if your planning on trying anything larger then your fingers. Pop it, heal up, then move to something bigger.
Also it grows back after seven years or so.