Can the right of godfather be revoked? is it normal?

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My brother is godfather to my son. After several rather painful personal ordeals he made the rest of the family suffer through, I no longer have contact with him by choice. Crazy as it sounds I no longer have any love for him and I am trying to completely remover him from my life and I do me COMPLETELY remove. As I am doing this It occurs to me that he is god father to my son and I wish this to stop. I know this is not a normal request but is there away way this can be done?

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  • Shackleford96
    10 years ago

    '[brother's name], because of what you did, you are no longer the godfather of my son!'

    *commence weeping.

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  • soul-man
    10 years ago

    Yes, make him an offer he can't refuse.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I don't know about other countries laws but in the US there is no legal documentation of godparents that I am aware of.

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  • kelili
    10 years ago

    You simply don't tell your son that he has a godfather and who knows what will happen in the years to come. Maybe the situation will get better.

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  • NotStrangeBird
    10 years ago

    It is a meaningless title unless you give it meaning.

    Does your brother stop being your brother because you have no contact?

    No. He might not act as a brother to you, but he's still your brother.

    Why should the title of godfather be any different?

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    • disthing
      10 years ago

      It seems like you're saying regardless of OP's brother's behaviour, he is the godfather with or without OP's consent and support?

      That seems a little silly to me. There's a biological component to being a brother. There is no biological component to being a godfather.

      Usually you pick your child's godparents because you think they are good role models and they may also be the nominated party who becomes guardian of your child in the event you can no longer be.

      If the godparent then proves themselves bad role models and unfit to be guardians, then you have every right to revoke that title and responsibility.

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      • NotStrangeBird
        10 years ago

        And I'm saying that a biological bond is closer than that of a ceremonial one.

        The biological bond is already broken. Why should the ceremonial one be harder to break?

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        • disthing
          10 years ago

          Oh I see.

          It was...

          "He might not act as a brother to you, but he's still your brother.

          Why should the title of godfather be any different?"

          ...that threw me, because it sounds like you are saying 'he is your brother regardless of how he acts, and he is your kid's godfather regardless of how he acts.'

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          • Hugh*Janus
            10 years ago

            Yeah that's how I read it too.

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          • NotStrangeBird
            10 years ago

            Apparently I put less stock in the title of godfather than you do.

            Godfather or not, he will still just be 'that crazy uncle that we don't talk to'.

            I'd put more stock in that than a made up title.

            I just don't get it.

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            • disthing
              10 years ago

              I don't consider the title of any objective value, it all depends on the opinion of the person applying it and the person receiving it.

              But the way you wrote your initial comment implied godfatherhood was as unbreakable an arrangement as brotherhood. It was the way you phrased it. Now I understand you meant that if one can effectively disown one's brother, one shouldn't have a problem revoking their godparent status.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    It is a meaningless title.

    You can change guardianship whenever.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Only in death.

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  • abradab
    10 years ago

    Ok... so how do I go about revoking the title?

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    • NotStrangeBird
      10 years ago

      See Marlon Brando on his daughter's wedding day.

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