Can't stop thinking about someone not sure what i should do...

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A few years ago I was in a relationship going stale. To be honest I'm not sure why I continued past the first month, I was kind of an idiot, there were fun moments, but that's besides the point. Towards the end I started talking to someone I knew as a simple acquaintance online. Soon conversations would get longer, we'd talk on the phone, and I became more interested in speaking with her than the girl I was actually with.
It got to the point where I told her I had feelings for her, and she said she felt the same way. We began sending letters to each other and it just got deeper and deeper. Eventually, as these things inevitably happen, my actual "gf" found out and we broke up. This obviously did not go well with the girl I had feelings for because she didn't know I was in a relationship.

Now its been years later, we don't talk much, but for some reason starting last week I cannot get her out of my head, to the point where I'm getting somewhat depressed and lethargic. I've spoken to her and told her how I feel about her, and that I would give her the space she needs. She's with someone now too.

I'm not sure what to do. I know this is just a phase, but there are things in life that tell me I should continuously focus part of my attention towards her. Is this normal?

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  • littlegeorge14
    13 years ago

    It sounds to me like you may be unhappy with where your life has gone and wonder how it might have been different if you had made different choices. One of your biggest regrets is likely to be how you handled the situation back then, not cutting things off with your stale relationship when you should have. This girl may represent your past regrets. By thinking about her, you are dwelling on the mistakes you made in the past. If you loved her, you would have never stopped thinking about her since you met, but you only started thinking about her again a week ago.

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  • styleofthelivingdead
    14 years ago

    It's normal but you have to let her go. You are probably just feeling nestalgic with a sense of "what could have been." These things happen, but 99 times out of 100 it will pass and it doesn't really mean anything. Don't worry about it, and don't press her. If things are meant to work out between you two, fate will figure out the pieces.

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  • Gtown
    14 years ago

    I've gone through times where I randomly thought of a girl I had a crush on but time went on and I'd forget about her then outta the blue she would pop back into my mind and it would drive me nuts because I would want to be with her but it passes again. LIke muddy said just occupy your time with sports, friends, I'd stay away from the video games they do more harm than good sometimes with these situations but yes I think you are normal.

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