Can't say those three words

I know its normal to tell someone you love them, but how do you know???? I know my boyfriend has deep feelings for me and he's almost ready to say that, since he bought it up in conversation. I find it so hard to say those three words due to past relationships.

Anyone know how to get over that and know you know you love the person?

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  • j0826

    Normal. my girl doesn't say i love you often, she says it like once a month. lol or whenever she feels like it.

    Actions are better than words. lol

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  • Darkbloom

    It's normal. I'm not an "I love you" kind of girl. LOL I think it's an awkward phrase to say to almost anyone. I've only said it to someone who's been my lover for quite a while...then it becomes rather natural.

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  • Spiderman7

    I think it's normal. My ex used to say it to me sometimes and I'd never say it back xD it feels really weird saying that haha. Maybe it's cuz she was a douchebag to me idk xD

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  • i agree with Darkbloom. i think it's a pretty awkward thing to say. i personally don't say it. i prefer showing it...but i suppose, if it feels right, it would come naturally. it suddenly won't seem awkward

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  • KimmyKhaosXD

    just cause he says it doesn't mean you have to, just tell him your not ready. don't let the past get in your way. forgive and forget. don't pressure or let anyone else pressure you to say it, you'll say it when your ready. don't hold your feeling back though.

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  • rmaccer

    come on u can do it just open your mouth and say I LOVE YOU now repeat after me I LOVE YOU

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  • piercebrosnan

    There's a difference between loving someone and being IN love with them. I think the paranoia over saying those three words comes from not knowing that difference.

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  • duckfart77

    Well, I'm sure that you tell family members and friends that you love them. There is a HUGE difference between "I love you" and "I'm IN love with you". They are completely different. So by telling someone that you love them all you are really saying is that you care for them deeply. In love is much stronger in context and refers to what you say to a significant other, you know when you're ready to tell someone you are in love with them if you NEVER stop thinking about that person, when you're not near them you are miserable, you would die for that person etc... It's a VERY powerful feeling much different than just loving a person.

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    • funnystuff

      dont force it, the words will just blurt out once you know that you mean them.

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      • tormentingambitions

        Completely normal, as you've already mentioned. Don't worry or pressure yourself into something you feel uncomfortable saying or just can't get yourself to do. If your boyfriend truly loves you, he will understand. And as a previous comment on here mentioned, yes, actions do speak louder than words!

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  • mrsamericanpie

    Just look at them. would you want to be with anybody else but them? When you think of them, do you smile? do you have feelings towards them that are hard to explain? those three words could have a lot of meaning, and you could feel it inside of you when you feel it. trust me.
    forget the past, forgive the past - and go on with yourself.

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    • MrSchizo

      Bye bye mrs American pie. Drove my Chevy to the levy but the levy was dry...

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    • Scarred4life

      Well said.

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  • teehee

    if ur finding it hard to know how to say it, r u actually in love?

    if u dnt kno how u reeealy feel, chances are you might not be in love yet. time is what u need.

    i'm sure it's one of those things u jst generally kno in the back of ur mind.

    and you must try not to let past r.ships affect how u feel in the present and future ones.

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