Can't have a close female friend without wanting them.

Of course it's normal. I don't think I've ever had a friendship with a good looking girl that I didn't decide I wanted to smash soon thereafter.

I dont have an answer but I do have a question. I have a female friend that I am attracted to and have been for many years. We talk about once a week and text each other daily. I have asked her about dating me and at one point she was for it(I lived 400 miles from her and was in the middle of a divorce) and now she has told me no because it will ruin our friendship. I dont buy that but it is her decision and I respect that. I am soon moving very close to her for reasons that have nothing to with her but I must admit that being closer to her is an added benefit, but I am not sure that she feels the same way. I am very confused because I get mixed signals from her and now she seems to be avoiding my calls and texts.We still talk but not as often, yet when I visit her I catch her checking me out and she seems to a little nervous around me,(clearing her throat and sometimes stumbling over her words and avoiding looking me directly in my eyes sometimes and then looking at me when she thinks I am not looking etc)I dont know what to think, all I know is that she was my girl friend for a while when I was sixteen and I had not seen her between the ages of 18 to 42,but we reconnected and have been talking and texting since.I have often thought of leaving her alone entirely lately because I can not figure out what is going on with her and I feel like I am bothereing her sometimes.She is a very good friend who I love and she knows this yet she still talks to me and even though she has told me that she does not have any desire to be romantically involved with me I keep getting mixed signals, especially when Im around her ,any help?

I have a very close female friend and she knows that I like her but I told her I would wait till I'm 18 till we dated again

I seem to have the complete opposite problem to you! Im very close friends with this girl, she's so pretty and i fancy her like hell, we'd be great living together, it's just that i cant imagine the sex. Im more of a cuddle on the couch person. I think your story is 100% normal nevertheless.

Normal. You only think about these other girls because they are close to you. You like being as close to your closest of friends as you possibly can be (if that makes sense). And by the sounds of it, you will remain faithful to your girlfriend whom you seem to adore. So it is ok.

But maybe when you start thinking of these girls, think of your girlfriend. Think how much you love her and if it is true love, the other girls should go away. :) best of luck, live a long and happy life with the one you love! (corny I know, but true) xx

You don't HAVE to have close female friends. Or if you must have them, think of them as your sisters - rather declare to yourself that they are your sisters and sleeping with them would be incestuous and gross.

My psychology teacher told me that once you get to 30's and 40's it's impossible for people to have friends of the sex they're attracted to, without wanting them.

yes i do have the same problom and i have a girl to the way i keep it out of my head is every time i think of another girl like that i think of my girl like that so i get the other girl out and my girl in

Yes, it's perfectly normal.

You feel a very strong attraction to people (girls), who become close to you. It is academic that the thoughts become sexual.

It's only natural, as sex is an act in which we can be the closest to another as we can be, that we have such thoughts about those whom we allow to get so close to us.

Don't let it get you down when you have these thoughts; they're only natural. You know when and when not it is appropriate to act on such thoughts.

I had the same problem but every since I found my "one and only" it doesn't happen that often anymore. I guess...it was just infatuation....i guess it's the same for you to. And in my opinion...it is kinda acceptable.

This is normal. I'm in the exact same situation, only I'm a girl. I'm currently engaged, and love my fiance very much and I'm excited to be getting married to him. But honestly, I fall in love with almost all my guyfriends at least a little. It's hard sometimes, but I just keep the thoughts to myself and don't do anything about it. I think it's natural. I know my fiance probably thinks about other women sometimes too, so I don't begrudge him that. As long as you remain faithful and it doesn't drive you too crazy, you can still have close female friends.

i feel this way too
just keep ur hands to yourself (or on ur girl)is the best advice i can give