Can't get this out of my head

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Three years ago me and my bf broke up after the birth of our daughter. I find out after this a load of things that to this day puts him in a negative light, at least for me. Like how he pretended to have diabetes for 3 years just so i could feel sorry for him, the fact that he is a pathological liar and coke head. while i moved on from him emotionally I can't stop thinking about the situation. I pretend to act like it bothers me that he doesn't see his daughter, but in truth I'm glad. At the same time it bothers me, I don't know why. I want nothing to do with him but at the same time i am always subconsciously looking for a way that my daughter can have her father in her life. Even though I feel that keeping him as far away from her as possible is the best thing. IS obsessing over this normal or do i need a shrink?

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  • crazy1331
    14 years ago

    He doesnt deserve to know your daughter and dont put her it a situation where she can be hurt emotionally. He cant take care of himself let alone a child. I think you obsess because you want something so badly and can never have it. He will not change for you and it is evident that he wont change for his own child. Pathological liars will always hurt you. On top of that he is a coke head. Is that really what you deserve in life? If your thoughts are becoming a problem for you talk to a Dr and get some meds. If that isnt an option, try smoking some herb when you get those thoughts. Marijuana is very good for you. See NORML.org if you have any concerns on that subject. Best of luck hun!

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    • playacerveza
      14 years ago

      I have to admit that you have a point, I've known this myself but haven't been wanting to admit it. However the only think i do wish is form him to change for his daughter, I really want nothing to do with him personally. as for smoking weed, well ive been there dont that, it kinda got old real fast.

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      • Mattman149
        14 years ago

        I wouldn't necessarily look at getting a therapist as a abnormal thing to do; MANY people go to therapy today, and it can be very helpful.

        I'd recommend trying maybe a community clinic therapist, since they tend to be much more reasonably priced and don't require insurance with mental health coverage. It can feel good to have someone with more insight who cares about you and is in contact with you on a consistent basis.

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  • skyhuh24
    13 years ago

    How on earth can you have a child with him if you're not married? That in itself is definately not normal. You're child is going to be scared for life.

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