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I look like a monster (tall, broad shouldered, shaved head)... I'm wondering if women secretly prefer someone they can be in control of physically as well as mentally.
You are not a monster, you are just physically intimidating. There will be women who will avoid men like you at first because they're afraid of being assaulted, but there will also be plenty of women who will be attracted to you right away because of your height and build. Remember that nearly all women desire a man who is tough on the outside and sweet on the inside. You're also wrong that most women want to dominate men, in fact the reverse is true: most women want to be feel delicate and feminine next to her man and want to be dominated by men. So if you can give off the impression of being a nice guy who can stand up for himself and make women feel protected (not scared), then you won't ever have to look back.
Go after money dude then the women will automatically come running after you no matter how you look.
You say nothing about your personality, or social skills. If these are on the money - and/or you merely exude an inner warmth and a caring heart - then these will go a hell of a long way toward making up for whatever shortcomings you feel you have in the looks department.
It seems what you need to be made aware of is that an intimidating looking guy who turns out to be sensitive and caring beneath the bald head, the muscle and the bulk, can be quite a turn on. In fact, it can truly be said that, in this sense, your formidable, physical presence works for you by emphasising the attractive, endearing qualities that lie hidden beneath the surface.
Yes, the great looking guys may not have to try very hard to attract the ladies. But if, beneath the blue eyes, the high cheek bones and the $10,000 pearly whites, they have all the personality of a dead trout, to go with the roving eye and an ego so big it sucks all the air out of a room, then they'd better get used to shallow, short lived relationships that don't have a damn thing to offer when the fucking stops.
Another poster here makes the case for looks not being the deal breaker. Forget the preoccupation with your appearance and let the girls be the judge of how you look. Think 'monster' and you're already half way to giving that impression. Be kind, be warm, be considerate, give free rein to your humour and compassion, look a girl straight in the eye and let her see that these qualities are genuine and come from the heart. Ask her about herself and make her feel that you're truly interested in what she has to say.
In short, just relax and be yourself. And if you think that the cutest, prettiest little thing that takes a shine to you, won't look at the big, adorable lump that is you and thrill to the challenge of stealing your heart and turning you into her pussycat - think again!
Please don't leave us. It is rare to have contributors that can express ideas with metaphorical precision building a bit of suspense followed by a crescendoed conclusion. The reader's warm satisfaction with your final idea springs from the surrendipitous way you show us it was there all along.
Welcome back CountessDouche.
Well, there's an impressive eloquence at work here, too, McBean, and thanks for the commendation.
I'm conscious of the wall of text I often put out and don't flatter myself that any but a few bother to read my contributions, let alone agree with them. However, I enjoy giving my perspective on posts that appear to be genuine and find great amusement in many of those which clearly are not - and particularly the often brief, 'angry' and 'outraged' responses they receive. Perhaps I have much to learn about the power of brevity!
It's in the nature of honest debate that you and I are sure to disagree occasionally. But, I'm always happy to give what ground I can and try to learn something new, even from an opposing view. And no matter how harsh the criticism, I'll never get into a rock throwing contest as I've always taken the line that, if you can't take the flak then don't put out the post. It's not that I don't have the ammunition, it's just that I'd rather try to make a friend of an enemy than the other way around.
I'm guessing Countess Douche was before my time. I don't know for how long I'll be around but certainly for as long as I'm enjoying the ride.
Thanks again, both to you and to Sebastian2013, for the much appreciated kind words.
Yes, yes. The fresh breeze of intellectual clarity awakens moribund wits to counter the pokes and prods of enlightened discourse, I'd say. Isn't it easier to breathe when you are playing at the top of your game?
Sorry I mistook you for CountessDouche. She was an American. Best writer at IIN in the last 5 years. She wandered off into the Australian Outback and never logged in again. A rather clever way fade into obscurity.
I play at the top of my ability so rarely that nobody would suspect that I once barely squeaked by into the MENSA Society. You're smarter than me anyway, except maybe at maths.
So, I am filled with anticipation. The ball is in your court, my Yorkshire lass. Go back to the baseline, click Submit Post, and serve us a shot.
Being a highly egalitarian individual, I don't like dominating or being dominated. Also overly-confident guys turn me off.
The particular women you asked out probably dont like muscular guys, but there are some girls who do like muscular guys, so move on pal...
depends on the girl, I'm not the most handsome of men, but I can get girls swooning over me because I'm confident and bold when it comes to dating. If you're looks aren't up to par, still tell yourself they are and eventually you'll believe it. Then you'll act more confident and that confidence will project and attract women.
Ugly guys will never get a date unless they are rich. It's a terrible feeling to be selected out of the gene pool. I would know. It happened to me.
With that attitude you aint gonna get a date be positive bout your self the right woman is going to find u dont get your self down sum women jus cant handel a real stocky guy like yourself
You sound hot man there are definitely people out there for you. The key is confidence