Can't deal with arguments

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It might be because I had a childhood full of shouting but I just can't deal with them if it's something i've done wrong. If i know an argument is coming i'll have a knot in the stomache fot the rest of the day then when it comes it's like the worst thing in the world. unproportunatly. I either fight back tears, get choked up or remain quiet go somewhere after and ball my eyes out. IIN?

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Holzman_67

9 years ago

fear of confrontation, plenty of people have it. yeah it's normal.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Even with family members? I've done something and am waiting for my brother to finish work at yell at me.
  I get its not meant to be enjoyable but I'm an adult and I've got a knot in my stomach looking at the clock.
  
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NeuroNeptunian

9 years ago

I am, in a sense, the same way.

I grew up in a household with a lot of shouting and my way of adapting was to calm down and be cool. I shut it out, basically. Nowadays, I'm the same way. If someone argues with me I tend to either just shut down or get very angry.

I want to say that it will get better but it hasn't for me. My tolerance for interpersonal conflict is low.

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- Karmasbitch
  
  9 years ago
  
  happens to the best of us.
  
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Avant-Garde

9 years ago

I used to have the same exact problem, now not so much. I do, however, try to avoid arguments with people, especially strangers. Nowadays, an argument can sadly turn violent and even potentially dangerous.

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Karmasbitch

9 years ago

I shut down as well and will say very very little. cannot stand a serious argument. I can fake argue all day

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