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My son has some problems, he has been saying more and more homophobic and transphobic things.
Because of this I was thinkling of renaming him to something like Gaylord. Yes its a real name. I would only do it for a bit obviously until he saw what it was like to be bullied. Can I do it or not?
What do you possibly hope to achieve by wanting to change his name? if he is saying homophobic and transphobic things it is better to talk to him about these stuff face to face but by changing his name to Gaylord you're asking for him to be ridiculed by other students and chances are he would probably never want to talk to you.
I get that but ridiculing him with a name that he potentially doesn't like is not the answer. As I've said previously it would be better if you talk to him face to face as to why its unacceptable by you talking to him face to face he'll eventually understand why its unacceptable and he'll soon come to terms when you talk face to face with him.
Renaming him can also become very detrimental to his mental health which you may not realize when you ridicule him with that name as well as his wellbeing. Please bare in mind that the name Gaylord has some negative connotations and you wouldn't like to have your son bullied nor would you like it if someone were to rename you that name hence why I strongly think you should reconsider the repercussions.
If taking an honest conversation face to face doesn't work for both of you the next course of action I'd suggest is for both of you to book an appointment to get professional help from there they can help with your sons problematic issues as well as developing an inclusive attitude and also some strategies in order to go supporting himself.
In short renaming your son is not ever recommended and is not the solution.
Sometimes a person could say things so hateful because he/she is one and doensn't want anyone to know. Do you think your son could be gay?
Anyhow, don't change his name. It is pointless. And you should never want people to bully your child for anything...the trauma and memories never go away.
Also, behavior is learned, are YOU doing anything that could be considered homopobic?
It's doubtful a judge would sign off on that. I had a friend change their daughter's name shortly after she was born because they realized another name suited her better. Both were totally normal and not done out of spite. Maybe you should focus on being a better parent than finding a way to humiliate your kid. You're probably doing a decent job of that without dragging the law into it.