Can i just tell him and get over it?

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Had initially written a long post, but I don't think it matters... I talk too much.

Basically, I want to confess my feelings to somebody. But I know he wouldn't be interested, and that's not the point - I don't want to be with him in the real world, I know it's just a fantasy...

But these feelings are causing me great inner turmoil, and I want to tell him, just so I can get it off my chest and hopefully make the feeling go away. I don't want anything to come of it. I just want to stop feeling like I do. But my question is... would that be fair, to him? He is a professional, slightly older person. I had a dream about him recently, where I confessed to him and he let me down; when I woke up, I was upset that I couldn't get that sort of closure in the waking world.

What do I do? I've been dealing with this crush for a year, now. I want it to go away but it comes back every time. If I told him, I just hope he wouldn't yell at me. Part of me thinks he's already aware of my feelings. He teases me sometime, or makes comments. I'm pretty sure others around us have teased me/joked about it too. I'm more obvious than I think, unfortunately... Either way, I know he's not interested. I don't care about being embarrassed or anything, I just want to get it off my chest.

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  • scumbigula
    4 years ago

    you seem hyper focused on this person. there are so many other people

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  • Drax
    4 years ago

    Overthinking. It's really happening. You should tell him how you feel, confront. Not everyone will like you but you have the opportunity to learn from that experienced. You never know what will be the answer.

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  • litelander8
    4 years ago

    If y'all work together in a "professional" setting, you should invite him out of work to express yourself. But I agree that you should get it off your chest.

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  • palehorse
    4 years ago

    Go ahead. It's not healthy to pent up your feelings.

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  • mia500
    4 years ago

    If your not embarrassed then why don't you go for it!

    It sounds a bit like your obsessing over him- never do that. If you're interested, try it out so you can get an answer or move on to the next person.

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  • WeirdDudeFromTheSouth
    4 years ago

    You dont want to be with him but have a crush? Thats hard for me to wrap my head around. I say go for it.

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Go ahead mate! What's the worst that could happen?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I just don't want to be selfish and make him feel weird, I suppose.

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      • mia500
        4 years ago

        sounds like a confidence exercise or two should be in place. lol how does that make you selfish? You are entitled to your feelings.. you should express them!

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      • Doesnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        Fair enough. I'm not a girl so I have no clue what I would do. But if I were a guy... and someone like yourself came out with a crush on me, I would be quite flattered! Unless I had a bad history with you, you were ugly as fuck, super old ,underage or soemthing bad like that. But within reason... I would be so flattered! Also, me personally would want some complimentary exchange of bodily fluids, but not all guys would. He may feel weird and there will always be that risk. I wouldn't consider that a big deal though. But please, do not feel selfish in the slightest! That is ludicrous!

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    If it turns out to be s bad experience you'll only have yourself to blame.

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