Can girls and guys be just friends?

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Can a girl and guy be just friends without one ever developing feelings for the other? Most of you will probably say yes, but I googled it and probably 90% said no. What's your opinion?

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    10 years ago | pl

    I think it's sad that anyone would say no

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  • dom180
    10 years ago | pl

    Definitely.

    Proximity and mere exposure are significant components in attraction, which is why friends are more likely to be attracted to each other than random strangers are, but that doesn't mean all male and female friendships become like this. I also don't think sexual attraction one way or the other can in any way invalidate a friendship, but that depends what you mean by "just friends".

    Gay men and women can have friends of the sex they're attracted to, so I don't see why straight men and women wouldn't be able. It's hetero-normative to say that men and women can't be friends because of sexual attraction :P

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    • Crusades
      10 years ago

      Just because your friend is the gender you're attracted to doesn't mean you are attracted to your friend. Because you're not gonna be attracted to all the people of the sex you're attracted to. Stop generalizing.

      And yeah, sexual attraction plays a major role in the way a friendship develops. If there is attraction, you can eliminate the possibility of a pure friendship all together. Sure, both sides can accept to limit their relationship to friendship but that doesn't mean they're gonna feel comfortable. The frustration and jealousy will slowly creep it's way in, sooner or later.

      So, i think, in order to have a healthy friendship between two people who view each other as friends ONLY, there can't be attraction. PERIOD!

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      • dom180
        10 years ago

        What the eff? Your first paragraph is exactly what I said. I literally said "that doesn't mean all male and female friendships become like this" :P

        I can comfortably say a lot of my female friends are pretty sexy. That doesn't mean I'm frustrated by the fact that we're not fucking each other :P I think lots of people are perfectly grown up enough to find someone attractive but not get jealous.

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        • Crusades
          10 years ago

          Your sexy "friends" are just acquaintances, not friends. I am talking strictly about close friendships. I thought things were pretty clear regarding this topic but yet again dom180 comes and gives another nuance that changes the whole dynamic of the subject. Your feminist views are obliterating your logic and are hindering your ability to approach things rationally.

          I strongly advise you to avoid giving answers that could potentially be affected by your biases.

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          • dom180
            10 years ago

            *rolls eye*

            You are obvious.

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  • LornaMae
    10 years ago

    My opinion is that close-minded people don't believe in that. So, based on your statistics, 90% of people in the world are not as interesting as I'd wish everyone would be...

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  • charli.m
    10 years ago

    Of course they can be just friends. I have male friends I've never been attracted to.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Did you just watch Harry Met Sally?

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    • TheManagement
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      10 years ago

      Just came here to post this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i8kpYm-6nuE

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      • EscapedPsychopath
        10 years ago

        That is exactly what I meant by this when I posted it, thank you

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        Paws up!

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      • Anime7
        10 years ago

        Interesting.

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    • LornaMae
      10 years ago

      I LOVE LOVE LOVE that movie. I think it may be a generation x thing haha (although I'm not sure you love it)

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        I love it too.

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  • Syniister
    10 years ago

    Very rarely would it happen. There's always a bond that forms and it can become more than friendship. The friendship love turns sexual at least for one person and then things get awkward. Yes, it can happen where a guy and a girl are really good friends, but I think we can all agree that at some point, there's a more than friendship idea on at least one person's side.

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    • EscapedPsychopath
      10 years ago

      Thank you, that's exactly what I was wondering when I wrote the question

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    10 years ago

    Don't talk to pussy your not fucking. - Lycos 101

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    • Tommythecat.
      10 years ago

      Hahaha

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  • Diver2
    10 years ago

    Friends can suck each other off too!

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    • handsignals
      10 years ago

      That's very true Diver2.

      Humans are born with the desire to go 'P in da VG', If a male and female spend enough time together that urge will become to strong to ignore.

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      • Diver2
        10 years ago

        Let's spend a lifetime together.

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  • watashikara
    10 years ago

    At least one developing feelings for the other? YES. Both having feelings for each-other. NO--- sounds like a classic movie plot to me, real life is much more unforgiving. IT usually ends up being the former.

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  • Unimportant
    10 years ago

    Everyone defines friendship differently. That's the reason why some people say yes and others say no.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I have lots of female friends.
    I am attracted to a lot of them, but I don't see how that gets in the way of friendship.
    Some of my female friends I have had sex with as well.
    I'm still friends with my ex-girlfriends.

    Anybody who cannot be friends with the opposite sex is letting their sexual emotions get in the way.

    I do think I might be different from most people in that with sex, I can take it or leave it. I honestly don't focus on sexual thoughts with my female friends when I'm around them. That doesn't mean that I wouldn't have sex with any of them, but I'm not going to get upset and hold it against them if nothing ever happens. That's just really immature to do.
    I can hangout with my female friends the same way as I do my male friends. There's no difference to me.

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  • PureLikeSnow
    10 years ago

    Why not?

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  • RegGuy
    10 years ago

    Absolutely. Of course. Etc.

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  • steppenwolf
    10 years ago

    of course not. impossible. men see women, and go, hey when can I fuck her. thats just how we are built. sorry chicks.

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