Can "friends with benefits" lead to more serious love?
| Yes. The best lovers are friends first. | 212 | |
| Yes. Sex can step up the relationship. | 157 | |
| No. Once friends, always friends. | 37 | |
| No. With FWB one partner is using the other for sex. | 146 |
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disthing
In my experience, FWB always leads to one or both developing stronger feelings than just friendship. That's why it's a risk. If you fall for the person, and they don't fall for you, your friendship is essentially ruined, unless you want to destroy your emotional stability and happiness by carrying on despite your feelings, waiting on the possibility of the other person eventually reciprocating.
That said, if it leads to mutual affection greater than just friendship, what better way to segue from friendship to a loving relationship?
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fightagainstheyouth
maybe. sex is a strong connection between two people, and when you are already very close friends, it can bring out some feelings you never knew you had.
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[Old Memory]
I agree with SoccerStud. You have to leave your scent there as soon as possible.
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SoccerStud88
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#1A$$HO!@
who cares? did you see the movie? JACKIE(Mila)WAS HOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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UliNalaMansae
highly doubt it, just saying men dont feel the emotional attachment as women do sometimes and if their just freinds sure they can fall in love, if they meet and hook up im thinking very very low. but you know, smokers can live to a 100
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Kiwi_Master
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scullyfbi
An eventual long term relationship may be more likely because the social taboos related to sex are overcome immediately potentially allowing honest communitcations immediately in all interactions.
The two destroyers of relationships (and friendship) are differing and uncommunicated expectations---- and secrets with deception.Comment Hidden ( show ) -
peelover
any two people can make any mutually agreeable decision th=ogether that they want to.
its not the same as a platonic friendship where the idea of sex is introduced after you already know too much about that person to be interested.
once the idea of sex is out there it cant be taken back. you need to put your cards on the table from the outset of any relationship if you want to avoid that awkwardness.
since the fwb is a relationship based on both friendship and sex its easy to transition to a more complete relationship but only if both agree.
you just have to say you really enjoy it and you dont WANT it to end but you know that eventually it must if you have to start looking elswhere for a full time partner. that will get them to think about what they want and you move forward from there
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informationcrazy
Possibly, i'm friends with this guy, he's the lead singer of a band, so i expect to girls be all over him regularly. I don't get jealous. One night, i spent the night and we had sex. It was great, he even told me. It was pretty much the best sex he's had. The next couple of nights we continued to have our little "sleepovers". I've always had a thing for him, and ever since that night we've had a stronger connection. Every time we talk it's like we connect a little more. And i would honestly like a relationship with him. But he IS in a band, and he does go on tour. So i'm afraid he'll meet a girl.. I guess i'll just see what happens. But i do believe that if you both feel for each other, then you can be in a relationship. :)
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LPP1505
The best lover you can have is someone who's also a friend. In fact sex without an underlying friendship is at best not much more than a casual thing. Let's face it if you get into a real relationship then there needs to be a lot more to it than bed. It sounds to me as if you two are doing things in what I prsonally would call the right way. You've got to know each other, become friends who can talk to and be open with one another and now you've stepped up to physical intimacy. The sexiest person in the world and best lover in the world can be very quickly stale and unsatisfying if all you have between you is sex.
I appreciate you worry that your friend/lover is in a nand and other girls might be all over him so I suppose it's time for a gut check. If you want him to be with you and he wants you to be with him then you'll have to say that up front and tell him that you worry about that. I read your comment where you say it doesn't bother you but it's pretty clear that it does and that it's holding you back from telling him your true feelings.
It boils down ultimately to trust. If you can trust him not to take up the offers you believe he gets then go for it. If not then I would say that being physically intimate with him is a bad idea. It can only lead to pain if when he's on the road you're worried about what he might be doing and who with. I wish you all the best because in all honesty I think you may be underestimating the depths of his feelings for you. It's just possible that he's waiting for you to commit and is worried that every time he's on the road you're with someone else. Talk to him about it, see what you both want and then decide.
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sunny887766
Maybe, but not necessarily. If the person already feels for you and not just want you are giving them, there could be something else. Otherwise, they could be using you - according to an old saying, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free (or why why the pig when you can get the sausage for free).
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