But she'll be homeless.

have you tried to sit down with her & explain how you're feeling about this? if she loves you, & you show her how much this is frustratin you she'd try harder to & do something about it.

You should talk to her, she might not be able to see you're stressed out. Has she been good to you? If she is actively looking for a job, I don't think you should blame her because it's getting harder to find jobs nowadays. But if she's just waiting for you and EXPECTING you to support the both of you, then you need to wake her up. If she's buying things that aren't necessary, cut them from her expenses.

If you're still struggling, have her take out loans. She will pay them back when she finds a job. Just because you're her bf doesn't mean you should downsize your living and carry her burden.

Sit her down and talk to her, tell her how you feel, she can't read your mind. I will bet however that she knows how you feel all ready. My Ex's family did the same thing and after being maried for a few months I knew why! When all else fails run!

You should tell her that the end of a rainbow lands right in front of the house. Then when she goes outside to see it you slam the door shut, lock it, close the windows, pull down the blinds, and from that point on act as if you've never met her in your entire life. Sorry mam, you must be mistaking me for someone else, I have never seen you before? If she hangs around too long waiting fr you to "quit the act" just call the cops and insist she is crazy and you don't know her.

Problem Solved!

TELL HER TO GET HER ASS TO WORK.
you need to be direct about it and tell her that she NEEDS to for you guys to keep living where you are.
If she doesnt want to, tell her to go elsewhere.

have her join the reserves. yea she'll be gone for bct and ait but when she gets back she'll have at least some skills to be independant. also while she's at basic theres really no way for her to spend her paycheck, so she'd have some money saved up, and if she also avoids going out while in ait she could come home with enough in her bank account to buy a car. with that, she would only have to report to drill one weekend a month and two weeks in the summer, plus her mos may qualify her for civilian jobs she otherwise wouldnt have been able to get. so she'll have a regular income, a vehical, and a little extra every month.

There are only two things to do when you are 18:

A. Go to college or...
B. Get a job

Either she does one or kick her to the curb!

Is she having sex with you? If not, and she is just sitting there all day, she deserves to be homeless. She needs to get her ass of the couch and into a job. If not, KICK HER ASS ON THE STREET!!!!!

she is a free loader

is she a girl friend or a led weight? ask her to get a job or you and her will be on the streets

Talk to her! Seriously! She should be responsible for her actions, throwing her out would be too cruel!

you say she was abandonned at 12. well she probally trying to make up for that time with you. she might need some conseling. you got to consider the fact she might not of had the chance to mature properly and she might not feel capable or have the confidence to behave like a normal adult.

you could be broke and alone thats worse

Tell her how you feel. Tell her that she needs to go out and get a job or you guys can't live together. If she doesn't, or "looks" (as in, she pretends to go look but never seems to find a job. conveniently.) then tell her that she needs to move out. Maybe this will get your point across and give her the date that she needs to be out by. If she doesn't get a job in this time, or an apartment, then you're going to have to break out the lawyers.

Dress her up nice at nice and drive her around the bad part of town. Mak her get out and ho. Tell her if she doesn't want to ho again then she better get a real job.

You need to sit down and tell her how you feel, and tell her she has GOT to work or you'll BOTH be homeless. Simply STOP paying for things for her...if she wants a new dress, or make-up or a latte...say "sorry, I can't afford it" (and say "I" ) make her realize how you're feeling...it's called "resentment"..and it's a relationship killer...but, by your tone, I think you're already there....

Just ask her to try to find a job. Though, realize that when she does try that it might take months for her to actually find a job. Finding a job is a full-time job in itself.

Yeah, don't let your feelings fester under the surface. Talk to her level-headedly and find a solution.

She's quite young and so are you probably. It might be time for both of you to move on. Other posters are right - you 2 need to have a big and serious talk and make some decisions about your relationship.

You are also right: one would have to be a real prick to toss her out when she has no support, & heartless considering the rejection she must have experienced as a child. But you can separate amicably and fairly if that is what you decide.

If you really love each other find a way to make things work. Think of 10 years from now when everything is different. Can you accept the decision of ending a relationship over finances?

If you can, then it's your decision to make. Just don't make it based on a rash decision just to regret it years from now.

There's always a way to make it.

You should really talk to her about this.
If you put it off you could BOTH end up on the streets. And if she doesnt understand then I think you'll have to ask her to leave but..sending her to the streets is just too harsh of a breakup. I'm really not sure about this one...

I agree with above posters, try to talk to her. She's young but must understand that everyday life doesn't run on dreampower. Work must be done.

I understand not being able to find a job right away but there must be something. Local Taco Bell, maybe? Anyway, if she refuses to even look, I say she should be put on the street, at least for a while. It'll do her some good.

Put her to work man.

The thing is that is very hard to find a job right now, so there are more people in this situation, even families with children. If you feel attraction one for each other you should stay together.

is she giving you sex? why wont she get a job? any job? She sounds like my ex wife.