Bribing friends with compliments and gifts?

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I've had many friends throughout the years, but they never seem to stay in my life and the common denominator is myself and my actions. I think my friendships seem to end because I subconsciously bribe them with compliments and gifts in exchange of their loyalty and dedication.

The thing is I have always been a very generous giving person and also a complimentor from birth, so its not like I am being someone I'm not, but how can I make+keep friends for longer periods of time?

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  • hermione
    12 years ago

    dont try so hard and tone the gift giving down or at least wait a few months to see if they are worthyand let them give back to you

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  • Chillpill
    12 years ago

    Some people may feel uncomfortable about taking so much from you and unwilling to reciprocate quite as much which could leave them with a constant sense of obligation and feeling a bit guilty about the imbalance in your friendship.
    I think since you're aware of your excessive generosity, you should be able to curb it a bit more.
    As a root cause I suspect low self-worth. Is it possible that you feel you're not enough the way you are as a person?

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  • equanimity
    12 years ago

    Allow them the opportunity to do the same for you. Everyone likes to feel needed, even your friends.

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