Boyfriends female coworker

Yes - definitely tell him to chose - and be more demanding than that because this goes beyond the fact that she is openly contemptuous & is sabotaging your relationship.

Why isn't he confronting and ditching her?

Do you think she sees him as kind of a spineless guy she can just string along & is getting her kicks out of that?

And that he won't, could it be she is right? Take heed ...

or you could have a threesome cause that would be great!

It is the responsibility of your boyfriend to tell her to stop, otherwise she will rightfully think that her advances are welcome and continue. Have a talk with your boyfriend and tell him that it's his obligation to you as a couple in love to tell her to stop. He is probably just be flattered by the attention, but clearly it has gone too far and it's time to stop.

Oh wait, I just saw the comment by the asker. It's possible that your boyfriend has an attachment to his coworker, because he doesn't like you to talk bad about her. But it's also possible that he's frustrated that you're still feeling uneasy and insecure even though he's putting in effort to fix things. I suggest, to stop talking about her for a while. If the he fixes things and the hussy stops flirting, all is fine. But if she still persists and nothing is changing, there's a possibility that he isn't trying to fix things. That's when you show up and talk to him about your insecurities and how it happened before but nothing's changing. It all comes out to whether your boyfriend cares enough for you. If you still feel insecure, then something isn't right.

I don't know how old this story is but you seem like a really good girlfriend to put up with this hussy trying to be all up on your man all the time. She is not to be trusted, obviously, and not someone you'd ever want to hang out with. Tell your boyfriend to quit hanging with this beotch. She just wants dudes to shower her with attention and to feed her power trip by having men who are involved with other women hang out with her instead of them.

As the other commenter said- go with your instincts because most of the time they are correct in these situations. But if he has that much of an emotional attachment to her and it wasn't just plain light flirting- I'm not sure if counseling will help. She's still in his mind and I'm guessing she still works with him too? Not good. You may have to let him go, sweetheart. I know it's not easy but it would be better to separate on a civil and fairly positive note than to find out that he actually broke down and cheated one day (if he hasn't already) and then have it explode into a big mess.

No offense but, do you think they might be having an affair?

thanks all for your input.

I talked to him about emotional cheating and i think he understood what was happening and is making an effort to spend more time with me and to fix things, but he gets ticked off anytime i mention her or if i say something bad about her, feels like i am touching an open wound.
Is it possible that he loves her?

i'd confront her tell the b*tch to stay away or you'll blackmail her. tell her you'll go to her husband if she doesn't leave your boyfriend alone. if she is making out with random guys then she is most likely already cheating on her husband so whats stopping her from getting her nails into your man too?

ok... she obviously fancies your man... but you be the boss and show her tha you got him first and its not up to him its up to you..... his your man do wateva it takes to keep him... im a guy and i know how bored us guys get so yyou do enough to keep him entertained and he will be around......

Umm thats not right. just atay with him and if something happens between them break up with him.

hes f!cking her your just to stupid to realize it sorry to say that you need a real faithfull man if he cared 1 ounce for you he would never take her invites your just his side show and it pisses me off . you will learn the hard if you dont dump that dweeb .oh just cuz shes married dont mean shit