Boyfriends dad yelled at me for no reason is it normal?

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My boyfriend has severe sciatica and cant lift a lot of objects by himself.
I stayed in his home all last week and helped him with everything. Getting dressed, getting dinner etc.
Last night i went to bed before him because he was watching football with his dad. I awoke to hear his dad at the door asking me to take a glass of water from him for my boyfriend. As i was trying to say im not dressed, I'll be there in a second he yelled very loudly and aggressively over me "get up ya fuck!! Get up off your ass and hurry up"!!
I said quietly "im not dressed yet" and he just left the glass of water on the attic stairs.
When i told my boyfriend about this, he said it was his way of being nice and showing me that he likes me?
i got upset over it and started crying. I was woken up horribly and had a mini panick attack. I dont want to go over to my boyfriends anymore because my boyfriend seems to think this is normal, is it normal?

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  • charli.m
    8 years ago

    That's awful. He has no right to speak to you like that. Your boyfriend is hard work enough (I'm assuming you wrote about him on here recently?) but at least he has a reason for his bad behaviour.

    What treatment is your boyfriend getting, by the way?

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    • buttons4me
      8 years ago

      I thought i replied to this already but looks like i didnt.
      I did write about my bf before here, we're fine though, hes getting an MRI scan tomorrow after being on heavy medication. I kind of want to avoid my boyfriends house because of his dad. I have a feeling if his dad spoke to me like that again, i would be alone mentally and i would expect his father to say "its my house i can say what i like"

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      • charli.m
        8 years ago

        That's good he's getting a scan. Meds can only do so much, he probably should be gettin physical therapy of some sort, though. Once he's recovered enough, keeping on top of core strengthening exercises is vital. Surgery can hopefully be avoided, depending on what the cause is.

        His dad sounds like a jerk. Yes, it's his house, but that doesn't give him the right to treat people like shit. I don't blame you for feeling attacked on all sides, it's a pretty shitty situation and you're clearly just trying your best to do what you can.

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    • buttons4me
      8 years ago

      I did yea, me and him are fine and hes getting an MRI scan tomorrow after being on heavy medication. I dont like his dad. I dont believe he has any respect for women also considering the fact that he cheated on my bfs mam 10 years ago keeping it a secret for 2 whole years and telling my bfs mam who became pregant during that time to get an abortion or else he would leave her.

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      • charli.m
        8 years ago

        Idk why this just showed up :/

        His dad sounds like my dad. Best to leave that type to their own misery.

        Have you got any results yet?

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  • gloryholeflasher
    8 years ago

    I don't know how it feels to be a girl, but from my male perspective if somebody spoke to me that way I would probably say something like, "speaking of ass, you can kiss MINE!", and I would be out of there as quick as I could and never go back. You need to realize that often the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Like father, like son! Beware of what you're getting yourself into. It would be bad enough if you ended up being your boyfriend's caregiver for life, but in addition to that you could end up being treated like shit, like a dog, the whole time!

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    • buttons4me
      8 years ago

      My bf wanted to tell him off for it after i explained how i felt but i didnt want to go down that road because i didnt want him to think he got the better of me. However if he speaks to me like that again I'll go ape shit and never return

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  • DannyKanes
    8 years ago

    No, it isn't normal. Your boyfriends dad has no right to talk to you, or anyone, like that and should apologize.

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  • snarkygirl
    8 years ago

    This man is a dick. Next time you see him, throw coffee in his lap and say" haha that's my idea of a friendly joke!"

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