Boyfriend uncomfortable with guyfriend

Just speaking from my own experience here. I dont believe in platonic relationships. Unless the guy is gay or impotent. No just impotent, because gay guys would still do it. LOL..

My ex had a lot more guy friends than girl friends. Also her "best friend" was a guy, she told me this in the beginning. I trusted her but in the back of my mind was still a bit leery.

For good reason. She slept with her best friend and another friend. Who knows how long they have been sleeping together, but I was not there to find out. I was gone real fast.

Bottom line a guy will always want to fuck his girl friends, he's hoping to be that shoulder to lean on. Or just hang out get drunk and have casual sex as if its nothing.

The real question is that I haven't seen is, have you given him a reason to feel this way? I mean when a girl throws out to me "I have lots of guy friends, I get along with them better, like it or eat my ass" crap to me, it just tells me she is insecure about being around other women. I mean you don't hear guys saying that shit because its simply not true. Guys don't "just get along better with girls". Guys just want to put their long in the girls they like to hang out with....catch my drift?

It's not good and you do need to resolve it, but that behavior is normal

This is why dating fat girls is great, you ain't gotta worry about this stuff

It's normal. Would you want him talking to other girls who impress him?

yea thats normal cuz he's gonna have that though in his mind that someone could be messing with u

He might be jealous. Thts my guess he's too scared to lose you.

Have you tried bringing him around when youre with your guy friends so maybe he would feel less threatened? He sounds a little insecure and possessive, but maybe if he saw it with his own two eyes he wouldnt be so against it. Either way, dont let him stop you from seeing your friends. You are your own person!

Sounds like ur boyfriend is insecure... girl, hang with whoever you want. He may be your boyfriend but he doesn't own you, nor is he your keeper. It's obvious he doesn't trust you... otherwise it wouln't be a problem. I find it weird he would tell you he doesn't want to have to worry about them messing with you becuase if he DID trust you then he would know you would tell them off if they tried.

How old are you and your boyfriend?

This is an important question when trying to establish the right thing to do.

If you're teenagers/young adults, I would suggest that it's your boyfriend's insecurities (which are naturally prominent at this age) that would be the most likely cause of this tension and his need to "keep you all to himself". Unless you're willing to sacrifice your friends I'm afraid that there's very little else you can do to change this - just hormones.
Of course if you're a raving slag and the boys are obviously trying to get you in the sack behind your fella's back, or if he sees your male friends as dangerous or threatening towards you then his insecurities are justified. But regardless, he will always likely feel this way, especially if you're his first girlfriend.

If of course you're older (like me) then prove to him that he's got nothing to worry about. A real man will trust you if he really loves you.

He sounds so insecure. But I mean I would be just a bit insecure if my boyfriend had all girls as friends.

Guys can be so lame. If you had these guy friends before this boyfrien then he's really being stupid

shut up everyone hes just very protective over u and doesnt want anything to happen to u cause he prob. doesnt know these guys and if they got drunk or something and took control of u they could rape u or something and he said w/e u posted at the end cause it seems like him asking u to stop hanging out with them or something isnt working and it seems to him like your practically ignoring him and yes im sure he does trust u he just doesnt trust the other guys and if i were him and in this situation i would probably do the same thing but id want some of ur other girl friends to be with u and make sure they dont do anything to you

your boyfriend sounds insecure

im the same with my girlfriend but i kind of came to terms with it
my gf broke up with me and fancied this lad who was her best friend then we got back together and she said she didnt like him any more but he was still around so i had huge hostility to him i still do but now i think before i act or blow up

your boyfriend has to do somthing similar i suggest maybe reassuring him about it telling him how much you love him or summit or maybe let your bf come out with you and them if he knows them he wont feel so bad i know it helped me

dont know if anybody else posted this but i'm the same way as your boyfriend sorta.. except alot less trusting lol. but do you invite him to go with you? thats my argument, if you cant invite your boyfriend/girlfriend to go with you to hang out with whoever it might be. you shouldn't be hanging out with those people. and it WILL cause distrust.

Um i'd be careful....guyfriends can crush on you....

Take me for example, Me and this girl used to HATE eachother, now we're really close friends....and i used to freak her out saying i liked her and such, because im a goth and shes a girly girl...so it was funny to watch her be scared....but now i really do like her and we're closer than ever.....shes single now...but i have no chance with her....

Um...so dont get to close to your guy friends....i think that was my point

honestly he sounds more protective then possessive, he just wants to make sure u are alright

imrighturwrong is right.

well, your boyfriend sounds paranoid and i don't think he should be restricting you. its sorta like me telling my bff not to hang around other people because then she might become THEIR bff. your boyfriend needs to cut his losses and get a grip because if you care about him you won't hurt him, ok?

thats not right.. most my bfs wouldnt allow me to even hang out with my chik friends and its stupid u had a life before them and u can still live that life and have ur guys' life if he cant trust u its bs.. like someone else said let him hang out and see that theres nuthing to worry about, my bf was like that then he hung out and got along with them

enjoy your guy friend and your lover...dont let your bf make you choose.......you choose

...by the way my response was my taking into consideration that you actually give a sh*t about this guy's feelings. If you dont, do what "imrightyourwrong" said.

"YOU DON'T OWN ME!"
(Eddie Murphy, RAW)

Have you thought that maybe he does trust you but is still worried about other guys anyway? Most guys(not including myself) are not good. And that is why I always want to beat the $hit out of most guys. It's like this, I practice 3 martial arts right, my parents almost never really worry about what could happen to ME, but rather what could happen to OTHER PEOPLE who try to do something to me. So it's not always just some jealous thing.

Sounds almost exsactly like my boyfriend, But he tells me just not to tell him about it.
It pisses him off pretty baddly.
But w/e
I (I guess like you) Get along with guys way better then i do girls.
Your boyfriends just insecure.

story is brief, would have to know how long you've been going out. plus his previous experiences. (abandonment issues perhaps) It sounds like he cares about you and doesn't trust your friends. you should probably introduce them.

Lol. dont listen to the dude, hes insecure and probably a control freak. He will grow up to be an abusive controlling husband and murder his wife then bury her and build a house on top of her grave!!! Or....he might love you alot and be afraid to lose someone as precious as you. I dunno =P

yeah that's not even what i meant

he said he didn't want me to tell him whether or not i hung out with them, which seemed weird..

i wouldn't go and talk about it to him since i knew that he had an issue with it in the first place

i'm not an idiot

fuck him