Boyfriend tunes me out and blames it on ptsd?

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today me and my boyfriend got into an argument about him tuning me out while I am talking. he didn't apologies, but instead blames it on his PTSD. not once in out relationship have I seen him zone out in the middle of doing something. he sits though movies, passes all his classes, listens to his elders even though they talk his ear off for hours but he can't sit though my 2 minute story without "zoning out"?
who's the real inconsiderate one here?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    It's possible that he puts a lot of extra effort into listening to his classes and elders because it is important shit. If he doesn't pass his classes, he loses money. His elders probably don't talk to him about dumb shit. Maybe he DOES zone out in his classes and compensates by studying harder. You never know but it is a legit possibility.

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  • BobbyTheBear
    9 years ago

    I Wouldn't pay attention to a flat chested girl either. Blame it on my adhd

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  • Curiousme1981
    7 years ago

    All men do it......we talk bout shit they don't wanna hear.

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  • Spankz
    9 years ago

    Both my parents suffer from PTSD and it is completely normal that they zone out with me. Around their friends they are lively and bright, but when they get alone with me I sometimes lose them completely. We could be having a normal conversation and all of a sudden they're gone.

    I often envy their friends, because they get to see my parents at their prime. However, I understand that they don't feel the pressure to be perfect around me. Movies provide an escape for them, a world they can get lost in that I dare not interrupt. I've learned instead to observe them quietly and appreciate the way they relax and let their worried minds be put to ease. They are always more attentive with other things more so than me, but it's just how they cope. If you can't understand PTSD and the coping methods these people have, I advise against dating one. It can become unfair to both parties.

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  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    I've found that one of the signs my PTSD is being triggered is having a very short fuse and little or no tolerance for trivial bullshit because I just don't have the energy for it. (Sometimes that's even happened with my responses to other people's posts on this site, which often I don't even realise until someone calls me on it and I can then apologise.)

    So maybe that's what's happening here?

    Put your brain in gear before you open your mouth and you might find you're just chattering on about nothing out of nervousness or attention seeking, in which case you'll definitely get negative attention, whether or not your partner as PTSD

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  • woodchuckgra
    9 years ago

    My partner talks about the same crap day after day after day after day...get the picture. If its not negative he doesn't want to talk. He talks to his mom 4 or more times a day. They love talking about the negative... I always tune him out. Maybe it is time for me to move on...After 8 years...

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  • chained_rage
    9 years ago

    Maybe you're just boring

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  • iEatZombies_
    9 years ago

    He's pretending to give a shit what they say. He doesn't want to have to feel like he has to do that with you, too.

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  • pixie44
    9 years ago

    Well what do you talk to him about?
    A lot of guys don't care about gossip and drama with your friends (especially when they never met them before)

    If the topic you're talking about to him isn't serious it shouldn't be that big of an issue. But i would understand if you're trying to talk to him about something that's important.

    And a lot of people with that disorder to space out a lot so it is possible that that's the reason.

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    • RoseIsabella
      9 years ago

      Excellent point! I think most people with PTSD don't wanna hear bullshit talk about drama and gossip, because it can be triggering especially in regards to causing anxiety and dissociating.

      My sister can go on and on about our stupid uncle and girlfriend like a broken record, and last night I told her I had to go because I didn't wanna hear it. My sister has OCD and can really be annoying when she goes on and on about negative crap. My father served two tours in Vietnam (one with Special Forces and one with Psychological Operations)and he's tired of her obsessive bullshit talk. He's told me he doesn't want to listen to it after the things he's seen. He doesn't have room to spare in his head for her germ obsessions after having watched many of his friends die. I completely agree with and support my father, besides my sister NEVER seeks professional help for her problems and doesn't take her Xanax. I think she just likes to impose herself on the rest of us.

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  • Dad
    9 years ago

    Seriously minor issue.
    Maybe when you talk say interesting stuff. Is he interested in you? Then that'll do.

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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    dump him.

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